How do/would you relate to this?

How do/would you ... interpret ... this song coming from your ex or SO?

The Beatles - In My Life

There are places I remember
All my life, though some have changed
Some forever, not for better
Some have gone and some remain

All these places had their moments
With lovers and friends I still can recall
Some are dead and some are living
In my life I've loved them all

But of all these friends and lovers
There is no one compares with you
And these memories lose their meaning
When I think of love as something new

Though I know I'll never lose affection
For people and things that went before
I know I'll often stop and think about them
In my life I love you more

Though I know I'll never lose affection
For people and things that went before
I know I'll often stop and think about them
In my life I love you more
In my life I love you more

I wouldn't look too much into it its just a song. I used to send my ex songs and stuff too. I diddn't want to be with him any more but I was sad and its just what I did at that moment it was no big deal. I could be wrong but that's just my opinion.

What are your thoughts about it, do you think your ex is trying to tell you something?

smash787 wrote:I wouldn't look too much into it its just a song. I used to send my ex songs and stuff too. I diddn't want to be with him any more but I was sad and its just what I did at that moment it was no big deal. I could be wrong but that's just my opinion.

What are your thoughts about it, do you think your ex is trying to tell you something?

tnx for your reply.

sure, anything like that I would think the other is trying to say something ... to the affect of the, in this case, regarding the lyrics of the particular song.

i don't think /know if it's a way to somehow ... make me ... "crumble" or something like that or to simply let me know, at least for these moments, that he loves me more as it says.

and WHY though of course comes to mind IF that's the case. AND if his expecting some response from me.

other thing comes to mind, learning a bit about BPD (if so the case), these are attempts in trying to pull you back.

BUT very fact nothing of what and how it ... ended is a disturbance in itself then to be ... sent couple of songs ... "No one like you" and then this one ... both preceded with a before adding the status with the song.

don't know what he's trying to do or say.

the last 3 weeks (i have not responded to any) consisted of the following, starting with (just days before Halloween):

learn from mistakes,regrets,wish change,alone

u don’t understand how i feel then followed with an invite in the afternoon to Connect with him

### has invited you to connect

couple days later his status showing Scorpions - No One Like You youtube link to the song
followed by a few days after that

:-( all i wanted is love eachother

yesterday again the
few hours later the Status with the link to the youtube song The Beatles - In My Life
then earlier today back to the
the song status is still there

so ... needless to say ... don't know what he wants / expects from me by doing these things. as it says really not much of anything without him actually explaining himself ... better perhaps.

When I broke up with my ex for the last time I sent him a song about him being perfect and I sent him a letter saying how I was so sorry about all the mean things I had done and how I loved him more than anyone ever then within a week I did the meanest thing ever. I can totally understand that you want it to mean something significant and positive but I just don't think you should analyse it too much if you know what I mean?

If you want to get over him you HAVE to keep up the no contact, its the only way. If you still feel like there is hope then talk to him. Missing him doesn't mean that you should get back with him. Its very normal to miss someone really bad for a long time and still have made the right desision not to be with them.

smash787 wrote:When I broke up with my ex for the last time I sent him a song about him being perfect and I sent him a letter saying how I was so sorry about all the mean things I had done and how I loved him more than anyone ever then within a week I did the meanest thing ever. I can totally understand that you want it to mean something significant and positive but I just don't think you should analyse it too much if you know what I mean?

If you want to get over him you HAVE to keep up the no contact, its the only way. If you still feel like there is hope then talk to him. Missing him doesn't mean that you should get back with him. Its very normal to miss someone really bad for a long time and still have made the right desision not to be with them.

so yea, no significance whatsoever.
no one ever is ... that special ... so just keep in mind that i'm just another chapter in his ... life then?
has all, don't know how many for you, been the same?
at what point does it become / is it really over and move-on?
were you ever suicidal?
when was your last relationship?
how long inbetween them?
are they ... pretty much the same?
how aware are you? meaning ... does it seem somewhat of a game perhaps or all subconsciously ... due to the disorder?
when did ... you become are aware for you to be on here??
are you in therapy / treatment / counseling?
what was the pivotal point that got you here and/or to treatment if so?

and how long will this go on before finally stopping and actually moving on then?
it's been going on now for 3 weeks.

certainly in regard to your sentence.

struggling2010 wrote:

smash787 wrote:When I broke up with my ex for the last time I sent him a song about him being perfect and I sent him a letter saying how I was so sorry about all the mean things I had done and how I loved him more than anyone ever then within a week I did the meanest thing ever. I can totally understand that you want it to mean something significant and positive but I just don't think you should analyse it too much if you know what I mean?

If you want to get over him you HAVE to keep up the no contact, its the only way. If you still feel like there is hope then talk to him. Missing him doesn't mean that you should get back with him. Its very normal to miss someone really bad for a long time and still have made the right desision not to be with them.

so yea, no significance whatsoever.
no one ever is ... that special
has all, don't know how many for you, been the same?
what point is it really over and move-on?
were you ever suicidal?
when was your last relationship?
how long inbetween them?
are they ... pretty much the same?
how aware are you? meaning ... does it seem somewhat of a game perhaps or all subconsciously ... due to the disorder?
i'd say you are aware to some level for you to be on here??
are you in therapy / treatment / counseling?
what was the pivotal point that got you here and/or to treatment if so?

and how long will this go on before finally stopping and actually moving on then?
it's been going on now for 3 weeks.

I might be wrong, I am just telling you what I know from my expereience and my behaviour.

For me it took about a year to move on from my ex.
No I haven't been suicidal ever.
I am in a relationship now (can't be alone).
Yes all the relationships are SCARILY similar due to my insecurities and craziness.
Some of the time I am aware of my illness but often I blame my partner for making me feel bad which I sort of know is not true but then again I'm not sure sometimes (haha confusing).
Not in therapy right now but have been.
3 weeks is nothing it could go on much much much longer but you can be a part of not dragging it out if you stay very strong.

thanks for being so honest
it's truly appreciated!!

so best to ignore it and allow us both to move-on then?

would that be ... what you want if / when you feel / felt ... that intensely?

Yes sorry

smash787 wrote:Yes sorry

indeed

don't you want to have a "normal" loving life time relationship?

In a nutshell.. it means he's moving on, but he's going to cherish the memories.