anyone else had feelings develope for their therapist??

Hi, Im a BPD sufferer, ive met alot of people through my journey of treatment, and twice i have found myself falling for my therapist. What is with that. I know its fake, its the whole student teacher, doctor patient, therapist client syndrome. Can anyone relieve my humiliation and say they've experienced this too. I get so attached to people, i have serious abandonmnet issues, like im sure we all do. What do i do in the mean time, with my current therapist, who ive developed feelings for. If i talk about it, im sure she'll terminate my treatment with the old 'for your best interests'...thats not what i want, our sessions will be terminating anyway soon, as she was assessing me for DBT, turns out i need a psychotherapy group instead. I'm gutted. She was the happiness in my week, she understood, and enlightened me on what i was experiencing, the crazy feelings we all get with BPD, and know shes going, and i feel so upset. someone...write back.


give me the rope and let me tie my own path'

get a different therapist that you might not get attatched, but for having bpd, it seems you are self-aware on a
behavior that causes a negative results. Just knowing that you have this tendancy you can cut yourself off at just the mere thought and awareness. Because it is vital that you do this to empower yourself with knowing who you are and
why.

peace.

a sinking soul wrote:Can anyone relieve my humiliation and say they've experienced this too.

I discovered it's fairly common to develop feelings for your therapist. You're not alone because I developed feelings for a former therapist of mine. (it confuses me because I'm straight and a woman, she's a woman...I'm still trying to "find myself") I read about it and it happens because you open yourself up to them emotionally, sharing your innermost feelings and they listen, they are there for you, they don't judge you, they understand...so it's bound to occur in a setting as such. I did bring it up to her and she didn't terminate my sessions, rather, we discussed it.

our sessions will be terminating anyway soon, as she was assessing me for DBT, turns out i need a psychotherapy group instead.

I wonder why this happens to people, I don't think it should be that way. I'm in DBT as well as individual therapy, they pretty much go hand in hand where I get therapy at. You get both.

Hi, thanks guys. Brokenopen, your reply really helped me not feel like a complete idiot. It has comforted me a little to know someone else has experienced this too. It's positive your therapist didnt terminate your sessions afterwards. I'm very upset becuase i've finally found a therapist who is educated enough to truly understand, and to have an enormous amount of insight, and i have to let her go. FInding people who really know how to help you is almost like a million to one, there are so many things that have to fit just right, and i had all of them with her, and now, shes dumping me. i do have a lot of insight into my disorder aa the other guy mentioned. It doesnt always help though, 'just becuase you know you shouldn't worry, it doesn't stop you doing it, right?', well its the same for me, sometimes im aware of how im feeling but it doesnt reduce the emotions or help me to control them any better.
I really want group therapy and individual therapy, but they won't give me both. I guess thats the stupid NHS in britain for you. Thanks for replying, i really appreciate the help.


-give me the rope and let me tie my own path-