what they can "find out" about us on the internet

Right, so, it's good to tell someone, to put a word on what is wrong with yourself, it's good when they say it's ok, they're gonna be there, there still love whatsoever and stuff...
I'm a bit concerned about whet could come up if he googles it, like people, "doctors", saying you shouln't get involved with BPD, in a relationship i mean, or that BPD are not good to have children and all those craps...
I know it's not true, i know i'm great, i know i can be the best girlfriend ever (as well as being the worse) i know i'm great with kids and if i have kids one day, i know i'm gonna do my best to be the greatest mum on earth...
But i'm thinking he might read stuff and then be scared and want to run away...
I'm feeling like crap, I think i might have done a big mistake...

Well, relationships with BPDs ARE a rollercoaster ride. Most Nons in self-help forums are people who exited relationships with BPDers, and thus they'll wholly focus on the negative: the neediness, the manipulativeness, the threats, the anger issues, etc.

What these sites and people omit, is that the BPDer are suffering in a inner Hell all the time, and that the suffering they cause sometimes to others is nothing compared to the suffering we live inside. They focus on what it entails for the Nons, and their suffering is real, many BPDers are abusive in some ways. I certainly am. However, most BPDers are not dangerous to others.

dodie wrote:Right, so, it's good to tell someone, to put a word on what is wrong with yourself, it's good when they say it's ok, they're gonna be there, there still love whatsoever and stuff...
I'm a bit concerned about whet could come up if he googles it, like people, "doctors", saying you shouln't get involved with BPD, in a relationship i mean, or that BPD are not good to have children and all those craps...
I know it's not true, i know i'm great, i know i can be the best girlfriend ever (as well as being the worse) i know i'm great with kids and if i have kids one day, i know i'm gonna do my best to be the greatest mum on earth...
But i'm thinking he might read stuff and then be scared and want to run away...
I'm feeling like crap, I think i might have done a big mistake...

I totally agree with you, Dodie.
When you googles "bpd" you can find a lot of crap, the careless synthesis of DSM IV criteria (a synthesys themself, with that criteria a lot of people could be defined as bpd when they are not), the teenagers' site and so on.
When I told to someone that I'm bpd, everytime I've to deal with the same sh...: you're doing this to manipulate me, you can't feel anything. I'm tired.
Bpd is a serious disorder, there are a lot of books about it, there are a lot of definitions, it can't be a shopping list (and more of those criteria sounds racist to me).