Oh my jeebus!

I want to kill her. My BDs mother seriously pisses me off. I do believe she is a major reason there has been so much damn drama between us... She's apparently "sickened" by me saying things about how I feel about her son... and tells him that he seriously needs to cut me out of his life because all I'm going to do is ruin it.

The ###$ is wrong with her? She also accused me of sleeping around when I was pregnant with our first child.... and told him that I should abort both times I've been pregnant. I'm so ######6 peeved, and I can't believe he'd even continue to listen to her. She ranted to him about how he's going to have an unproductive, crappy life if he continues to be involved with me in any way. She doesn't even really care about our son, and especially not our daughter. (Obviously she's calling me a liar, and that this girl isn't his either)....

Mhhhrrr.... my life with him is none of her goddamned business, and if he wants to be with me that is HIS choice, not hers. I know how hard it is to deal with a ridiculous mother though, so I am more forgiving of him now that I know he has a psycho mom bitching at him all the time about me. He and I have been great this last month.... and we were before, until she stuck her nose in our business a month ago because she didn't like the fact that I posted a status saying that hugs from him made everything feel better. That was the last time he told me we were "never going to be together" and all that jazz. It seems that his mother is behind these stupid hot and cold episodes he has...

Jeebus I don't know what to do. I'm so peeved, but it's not like I can say anything to him about it, 'cause it'd just start a fight or something. I like how things are now.... and I suppose they've been good 'cause she hasn't had any statuses to get mad about when it comes to he and I. I haven't said anything about us since my own mother is completely against the idea too. This is too flippin' ridiculous to deal with while this dern pregnant. Gah!

Squeekerz! It's so weird and unfair that she's acting this way, she has no right. She might be one of those creepy jealous mothers... Maybe she just likes to cause grief to everyone too. If you ever need to talk to someone, please contact me.

Yeah, I'm kind of wondering if she is. She apparently said bad things about his brother's on and off again girlfriend too, but at least she posts pictures of THEIR child. She doesn't even mention ours at all to people. =\

Maybe your husband is her favorite.. Is he the first born?

Ex boyfriend, actually. And no, he's the youngest actually. However, he's the only child of hers without diagnosed mental illnesses. Her oldest has Schizophrenia and the second oldest is an alcoholic with pretty bad OCD. Maybe she just has extremely higher expectations of him or something. She's a college professor and has a book published.

Oh, I see. It really is weird that she has it in for you and your kid.

I solved my own BPD mother problem with a simple solution: I do not talk, chat, or perform any activity with my mother, except when it is strictly needed.

She is not part of my life, and rightly so after two decades of emotional and psychological abuse, neglect, playing favourites with my sister, drunkenness, whoring around to bring men each weekend night to have sex in the bedroom next to mine so loud I had to turn the radio on and push the volume up to 10, and failing to protect me both from sexual abuse when I was a toddler, and from physical abuse and bullying when I was in school.

In fact, I have no love for my mother, at all. She failed being a worthwhile mother almost all my life. She is permanently devalued in my eyes, she is nothing to me.

Then again, I already pity my future children to cope with their BPD father, especially if they are daughters. From my own experience, it's very possible it won't be pretty.

this is why our world is such a wonderful place. someone doesnt put you higher than everybody else? ###$ em, hate em, treat em like nothing, the heartworms of a hippo deserve more gratitude. and instead of having hte attitude to teach your kids how to interact with someone so god-awful, you will pity them and teach them to devalue other people. great idea, paying it forward with hate and negativity, it has worked so well this far.

go ahead, hate your ######6 mother. teach your kids to hate other ######6 people too. we all need some more hate. no, it isnt "not-loving", its ######6 hate. we as a race need to hate each other, stab each other in the back, stomp each other with our shoes. if were not number one, ###$ everyone else, we "deserve" to be on top. ###$ your neighbor hes worthless. someone looks at you funny, worthless.

dont spread the love, spread the hate, its intoxicating and only you win, just like you like it.

oh_that_guy wrote:this is why our world is such a wonderful place. someone doesnt put you higher than everybody else? ###$ em, hate em, treat em like nothing, the heartworms of a hippo deserve more gratitude. and instead of having hte attitude to teach your kids how to interact with someone so god-awful, you will pity them and teach them to devalue other people. great idea, paying it forward with hate and negativity, it has worked so well this far.

go ahead, hate your ######6 mother. teach your kids to hate other ######6 people too. we all need some more hate. no, it isnt "not-loving", its ######6 hate. we as a race need to hate each other, stab each other in the back, stomp each other with our shoes. if were not number one, ###$ everyone else, we "deserve" to be on top. ###$ your neighbor hes worthless. someone looks at you funny, worthless.

dont spread the love, spread the hate, its intoxicating and only you win, just like you like it.

eh?

oh_that_guy wrote:this is why our world is such a wonderful place. someone doesnt put you higher than everybody else? ###$ em, hate em, treat em like nothing, the heartworms of a hippo deserve more gratitude. and instead of having hte attitude to teach your kids how to interact with someone so god-awful, you will pity them and teach them to devalue other people. great idea, paying it forward with hate and negativity, it has worked so well this far.

go ahead, hate your ######6 mother. teach your kids to hate other ######6 people too. we all need some more hate. no, it isnt "not-loving", its ######6 hate. we as a race need to hate each other, stab each other in the back, stomp each other with our shoes. if were not number one, ###$ everyone else, we "deserve" to be on top. ###$ your neighbor hes worthless. someone looks at you funny, worthless.

dont spread the love, spread the hate, its intoxicating and only you win, just like you like it.

There is a huge difference between putting someone higher than everybody else and treating one's son like a decent human being with boundaries, dude.

Can't you see that having loud sex on the room next to a 12 year old boy and rub it in his face at 2AM to the point of knocking on his door is unhealthy behavior?

Can't you see that a mother pulling a kitchen knife to a son trying to defend himself verbally and non-physically against her emotional abuse and threatening to stab him and frame it to the police as if he had attacked her first is just heartless?

Hate is not a unhealthy emotion when the target has been and is a threat to one's well-being. In fact, it is perfectly healthy. It is an adapted instinctive behavior, and it is perfectly fine to cut that person from one's life if the latter feels that nothing will ever change and she doesn't even acknowledge she has a problem. Sorry, but filial duty doesn't have precedence over basic physical and psychological survival when the parent is toxic, dangerous, manipulative, and without the slightest inkling that she might be having a problem.

After what I have been through, even after learning that my mother had chosen to protect the young woman who had sexually abused me as a toddler to prevent any problem to herself because that woman happened to be the child of her best friends of the time, rather than protect the integrity of her own son, her flesh and blood, and have the girl arrested and tried as a child molestor, I think my hatred of my mother is perfectly justified.