Communicating with non BPD

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cmf, go back and read the first paragraph in my first response to janine. You misread me. I was quite clear that it's the behaviors that are hard to put up with. Not the people, the behaviors.

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Aww CMF, I hope you're not too upset by this.

I totally understand what you meant about V's comment on if they are willing to be with us, it means they must have issues. I also took it to mean, they must be mad to want to be with us lol But I honestly do think V's intention was good, in the whole message.

It hits a nerve with me, as lots of my anguish is about whether anyone can put up with me and I'm such a burden to mankind and so a comment like that, just confirms it. But I do honestly just think it was typed differently from how it was meant.

We mustn't underestimate the struggles that Non's have, even they don't get it perfect all the time and V may well have taken what I said as offensive (that they are somehow free from issues) which wasn't what I meant, but it may have triggered that response.

Sorry if I have cause this. hope you're ok. xx

I was neither condescending nor did I give an order.

...and V may well have taken what I said as offensive (that they are somehow free from issues) which wasn't what I meant, but it may have triggered that response.

janine, in no way was I offended. IME, there tends to be a dichotomy in which the BPDers are the "crazy ones" and the Nons are the "sane ones." I just wanted to chime in that we have issues, too. Some Nons might even be disordered themselves.