Sick of this!

Okay I have this major problem going on. I pretty sure I have BPD, pretty much without doubt. I also have OCD (I've actually being diagnosed with OCD, but not BPD) which increases my stress levels alot with BPD.
This is really long, i’m sorry, but I really need some advice please!
I am SOO impulsive. I don't know what I want to do with my life. Yeah, i'm 16, but I have no idea of what I want to do. It's gotten so bad, that i've changed schools 3 times, within a 2 yr period moved from my dad's to mums house over 3 times, and am currently pregnant to my ex boyfriend. It sounds soo awful even reading this.
I've jumped from wanting to keep this child to adopting, and abortion was out of the option from the beginning. My current boyfriend when he found out i was pregnant to my ex, was totally against adoption and so we decided we were going to live together and raise the kid together. So i moved from dad's to mum's, for my boyfriend to move in with me throughout my pregnancy.
I’ve juggled to wanting to keep this child to wanting to adopt, but I have finally decided, and am hopefully going to keep the decision, to adopt because I want to be able to fix my life up without involving a child in this mess.
As of 3 weeks ago, my boyfriends been living with a friend and our relationship has gotten crap. He’s pretty much BPD or bipolar as well, me and him clash cuz we’re both moody, overreact and have impulsive behaviours.
I REALLY want to fix our relationship so bad, and to stop being clingy, because I know that alot of this impulsiveness has been because whenever I get into a relationship I become clingy and obsessed, and I want to learn how to be in a proper long lasting relationship, while going to school and working, and being able to lead a successful life without changing patterns of behaviour so much. I’m getting soo sick of it.

I hope this wasn't too confusing. Please give me some advice...


Thank you!

Hi there,

At 16, you don't have to have all the answers, but you have gotten yourself in quite a position.
I know I was not ready to raise a child at 16. Adoption might be best for all.
You need to focus on yourself, your choices, your behavior.
Until those change, your life will not change.

I can't tell you what to do with you baby problem. It's a really delicate subject and... what I would do is keep it... but I'm biased as I can't have kids of my own.

When I was 16 I was running around hopped up on whatever I could my hands on... hand no direction or purpose except doing SOMETHING right then...

When I graduated I thought I had a plan. I was wrong.
I messed up, got kicked out of college...
I was throwing away everything my mom gifted me from my own HOME to my college fund to... everything.

You're not GOING to know.
It doesn't happen that way.
I still don't really know where I'm going in life.
I'm graduating college... no idea what to do with the degree...
I'd just as soon go back to being a stupid coke head high schooler.
My life is one big rash decision. Sometimes I follow through, sometimes I don't.

Get some therapy.
They help.
Maybe it won't solve all your problems...
But it helps.
Mine keeps me from being as rash... and helps me deal with the consequences of when I am.

No offense but being a 16 year old BPD I don't think you are a fit to be a parent. I doubt even a mature older BPD is fit to be a parent as long as they remain untreated, unless you want an unhealthy child of course.

Btw your current boyfriend is a total nutjob for even considering raising a child THAT ISN'T EVEN HIS.

Abort that sh1t lol.

asphyx wrote:No offense but being a 16 year old BPD I don't think you are a fit to be a parent. I doubt even a mature older BPD is fit to be a parent as long as they remain untreated, unless you want an unhealthy child of course.

Btw your current boyfriend is a total nutjob for even considering raising a child THAT ISN'T EVEN HIS.

Abort that sh1t lol.

asphyx! You are trying to help, but you are coming across in a mean non caring way. It is offensive and judgemental.
You will receive a warning for this post.

Try and remember to treat others with respect, instead laughing like it is all a big joke.

RED

SmileXx wrote:I can't tell you what to do with you baby problem. It's a really delicate subject and... what I would do is keep it... but I'm biased as I can't have kids of my own.

When I was 16 I was running around hopped up on whatever I could my hands on... hand no direction or purpose except doing SOMETHING right then...

When I graduated I thought I had a plan. I was wrong.
I messed up, got kicked out of college...
I was throwing away everything my mom gifted me from my own HOME to my college fund to... everything.

You're not GOING to know.
It doesn't happen that way.
I still don't really know where I'm going in life.
I'm graduating college... no idea what to do with the degree...
I'd just as soon go back to being a stupid coke head high schooler.
My life is one big rash decision. Sometimes I follow through, sometimes I don't.

Get some therapy.
They help.
Maybe it won't solve all your problems...
But it helps.
Mine keeps me from being as rash... and helps me deal with the consequences of when I am.

SmileXx,
You shared a perfect supportive response. Bravo!!!!
It could not have been any better, I am proud of you and this forum.

Blessings,
red xoxo

SmallTalkRed wrote:

SmileXx wrote:I can't tell you what to do with you baby problem. It's a really delicate subject and... what I would do is keep it... but I'm biased as I can't have kids of my own.

When I was 16 I was running around hopped up on whatever I could my hands on... hand no direction or purpose except doing SOMETHING right then...

When I graduated I thought I had a plan. I was wrong.
I messed up, got kicked out of college...
I was throwing away everything my mom gifted me from my own HOME to my college fund to... everything.

You're not GOING to know.
It doesn't happen that way.
I still don't really know where I'm going in life.
I'm graduating college... no idea what to do with the degree...
I'd just as soon go back to being a stupid coke head high schooler.
My life is one big rash decision. Sometimes I follow through, sometimes I don't.

Get some therapy.
They help.
Maybe it won't solve all your problems...
But it helps.
Mine keeps me from being as rash... and helps me deal with the consequences of when I am.

SmileXx,
You shared a perfect supportive response. Bravo!!!!
It could not have been any better, I am proud of you and this forum.

Blessings,
red xoxo

THANKS RED!!! ^_^

Thanks for your advice

But i'm not sure if I really want to go to therapy, I went to therapy with my OCD, and took medication for it, but it never really worked, and mum spent ALOT of money on therapy which only helped a lil bit, and in the end i've just decided to try to control my OCD myself.

I don't recommend medication.
I'm not really an advocate for that unless you're incapable of functioning otherwise... like schizophrenics usually are.
I just know that it's helpful to be able to talk to someone rational about things.
I tend to be irrational. My shrink usually keeps me from doing something horrifically stupid.
And I only see her once a month.
I'm not saying see them 3 times a week.
Just someone to talk to once in a while is all.

Someone not close enough to your situation to be biased.

Yeah you're right, it probably is a good idea.
I would like to get therapy, but i'm not sure if I can afford it though.
In Australia we have to pay for all our therapy and stuff, and it costs alot every session... it really sucks.

Do you know any ways of controlling BPD without therapy?