Is this a hoover?

by **taggo** » Wed Feb 24, 2010 4:36 pm

Been out of contact with BPD wife for 7 weeks. Total NC. The a text this am,
"I will forever be sorry our marriage didn't work out, but eternally grateful for (the the rehab facility she was in prior to leaving). Because of you I can say six months today. Thank you."

A thread yesterday said that hoovers serve no one but them. I was painted black two months back as she ran off with her "sponsor"...

I don't want to be cynical....no, screw that, I know better. If it were sincere it wouldn't have come in a text...paradigm shift? Hell, I don't know

Well, she's random alright.

She had the opportunity to share her 90 days with me and wouldn't let me go to the meeting ( I think she had her j*rk-off 'Sponsor" there). Now after all the drama and getting her served two weeks ago, I'm getting sincerity?
If it is great. If not, no big surprise.
My reaction will be the same.

by **SmileXx** » Wed Feb 24, 2010 6:14 pm

I'm just saying, that as a BPDer, I know what she's doing.
You're the passing thought in the back of her mind she feels regret for...
SOMETIMES...
It's sincerity in that instant. Beyond that... maybe not.
It varies.

I'd just write it off...
It's not worth thinking about.

by **freshcutgrass** » Thu Feb 25, 2010 3:16 am

Honestly, I think she meant it.
However, you were a passing thought that she forgot shortly after.

The value of sincerity has a lot to do with its shelf life.

If it were sincere it wouldn't have come in a text.

While texting is a vile, immature form of communication, I think it serves the BPD well.

It allows them to communicate with less chances of getting set off by something you might say or a tone in your voice. Texting requires a bit more thinking before you say something. Texting lacks emotion.

Nothing important is ever said via text.

by **SYL** » Thu Feb 25, 2010 5:30 am

Maybe this isn't the place to ask, but I've seen this a few times and didn't find it in a glossary.

What does "hoover" mean in this context?

by **SmileXx** » Thu Feb 25, 2010 3:34 pm

freshcutgrass wrote:Nothing important is ever said via text.

Text is the only way I communicate with anyone unless you've somehow managed to get into my house.
So MANY important things are said via text in the Smile Universe.
I don't like phones, and I hate seeing people...
It's a thing.

by **SYL** » Thu Feb 25, 2010 4:11 pm

Haha, I can't remember the last time I actually SPOKE into my phone . . . always text.

Yes, it sure is a "thing."

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