I feel nothing

I feel nothing about my wife. We are appart since April 08. Saw her in July then now in December, wont see her again till May.

I don´t care much either way if i see her or not. we are not separated. just that i moved back with my parents to get better treatment here in europe where i´m from, and she opted to stay behind in asia where we were living befroe.

I sometimes wounder if she died if i would feel anything.

She just spent 3 weeks with me for xmas and my parents who normaly don´t notice anything have asked me questions if i still love my wife and all that. I´ve dodge those conversations thus far.

Anyway... does anyone feel the same way with their spouses/ boy-girl friends?

I have definitely felt that way about someone I was dating. One day, I'd realize that I didn't care if I ever saw that person again. That was my sign that it was time to break it off.

You're definitely in a tougher situation since this is your wife, but if you don't remember the feelings of why you fell in love with her and can find nothing now to like or love about her, it sounds like you already know what decision you need to make.

I never attached these feelings to BPD since I've only recently realized that I have it.

Vevvie wrote:I have definitely felt that way about someone I was dating. One day, I'd realize that I didn't care if I ever saw that person again. That was my sign that it was time to break it off.

You're definitely in a tougher situation since this is your wife, but if you don't remember the feelings of why you fell in love with her and can find nothing now to like or love about her, it sounds like you already know what decision you need to make.

I never attached these feelings to BPD since I've only recently realized that I have it.

Yeah, we are apart now so i can delay that decision untill the time comes for us to be together again.

Sometimes i wounder if i´d feel anything if my parents or my wife, or my brothers died if i´d feel anything....

I want to drive a car into a roundabout monument at high speed, full of medecines and survive it...

I've been in the same situation.

My ex boyfriend, who I was thoroughly convinced was going to be "the one" and that if he ever proposed I would be ecstatic and in tears, finally proposed to me before I left for college.

I said "Yeah. Sure. Cool."

Nothing.

I wish you all luck in your unhappy relationships