- It doesn't 'make' you happy.
- Ditto that it might 'fix' you. No, no there's no magic pill in having a partner.
yeah true. which is why i'm treading slowly. i mean i got the job now. it didnt solve anything as such but i'm glad i'm working. life would've been miserable if i were unempliyed.
likewise in dec 2020, i joined gym. it didnt solve anything but i'm glad i went.
the difference with marriage is that it involves someone else's life as well. thus i'm more careful.
Now, you have told me I think that when it comes to the things you did, that the desire is burned right out of you, yes? So that there's no same sex desires, correct? Make sure you're absolutely honest with yourself about that, because another thing it most definitely does not cure, is your sexual orientation.
not really. i still have urges thus i was like: better be honest with partner that hey i'm bi.
I thought the other side of me would just dry up and go away, like trying to ignore a schoolyard bully. No, it does not.
oh.. didnt now that. i thought they'd die away if i dont think of it.
Statistically speaking, I've beaten the odds, by a country mile,
this is good. wish i had beaten the odds too.
Doesn't matter what sex my partner is, I would have still struggled with desire for the other sex, regardless. At least, I'm pretty sure I would have.
okay.
i dont want to end up like married to a woman and discreetly having same-sex encounters.
It's bickering and being irritated with each other and extra worry- especially for the man (or at least a halfway decent man, IMO) because when it's just you, if you tend to be irresponsible or have difficulty with day-to-day taking care of business, it only affects you. But when you have a woman, well, I constantly feel as if I don't do a good enough job in those departments, and I feel anxiety because I'm not just responsible for my well being, but for our well being.
yeah.. i wouldnt want to wreck someone else's life too.
Not trying to talk you out of it- without having a partner, you have no one to grow old with; no companion that you know is always around; no one to create memories with- and memories are a whole lot better, when there's someone else in them.
yeah this is why. to have a companion cause life is lonely.
Memories of experiences shared with a partner, will be good to have, I think.
good memories would be better than regrets of loneliness.
But for those who have never been in one, be advised it's not the end-all, be-all, cure-all. That's just for the movies, I think.
oh yeah... i realize. i just dont know. thus am going slowly.
Maybe, for now, you should just focus on the here and now. Don't overthink it. A lot of the things you've talked about are things that should just happen naturally as any relationship grows and you get to know each other. You don't need to tell them anything unless and until you feel ready As for marriage I am sure you will know when the time comes whether you want to be with that person forever etc. You don't have to decide now.
yeah true. right now i just have to be clean n stable. build my self esteem more.
i'm growing a creeper plant from cutting. the plant doesnt have to bear flowers right away. but it does have to get roots and start slowly.