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by Msyoga302 » Wed Aug 15, 2018 4:45 am
Hi
I know it is common to live at home at this age group in the 20's. I turn 30 next month and I am having a hard time with it. I am working towards working part time as I have (BPD) and general anxiety..and some traits of bipolar which limits me from working full time.
I find it gets hard as I am reliant on my parents financially partly - food & rent- I have my own hang out room and bedroom but I am having a hard time coping sharing a kitchen as my brother lives away from home and my parents are almost 60. I am single and I find its hard to be an adult in this situation.
I have a friend who is in a similar situation but she chooses to live with her boyfriend and she usually is in debt all the time, and not happy with the boyfriend but feels obligated to stay as she wont move home with her parents due to the same situation. Realistically I cannot afford to leave home without more assistance.
Is anyone else in the same situation? Do you have any advice?
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by jaus tail » Wed Aug 15, 2018 10:01 am
I would live at home all the time. No friends. I'd go from one room to the other. lie on bed. read the newspaper every five minutes. switch tv channels.
i got a freelance voluntary work for a magazine. this helped me a lot.
pros: i can do it from home
no time schedule. i just have to check emails at night n read two stories in an hour
i have to send emails to writers. n when i read emails directed at me n the writers thank me it increases my confidence.
makes me feel good
cons: doesnt pay
at times it feels worthless as there is no pay.
this voluntary work didnt solve my depression as such but it increased my confidence.
i'm at a uni now. i'm 28 n everyone else is 5 years younger than me. i want to run home now but i've wasted a lot of money already n dont want to waste more money on admission.
i'm literally counting days when this college will get over.
exhausted
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by Msyoga302 » Wed Aug 15, 2018 5:01 pm
Thanks for your reply. I think maybe finding something part time that would pay and I could work at home would be the best of both worlds. I am going to talk with my parents about making more of a separate apartment for myself as I find I do not have enough space to myself and I find they really affect me in a negative way.
If they wont do anything to help me i do not know what to do. My depression keeps getting worse.
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by jaus tail » Thu Aug 16, 2018 3:02 am
Thanks for your reply. I think maybe finding something part time that would pay and I could work at home would be the best of both worlds.
i dont intend to discourage you but getting a part time job that pays n u work from home is difficult. my volunteer work doesnt pay n at times i'm like why am i doing this. but it feels good to do some work and read emails for me.
I am going to talk with my parents about making more of a separate apartment for myself as I find I do not have enough space to myself and I find they really affect me in a negative way.
i hope it works out.
If they wont do anything to help me i do not know what to do. My depression keeps getting worse.
depression is very difficult to live with. at times i just lie on bed with blank expression wanting time to stop.
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