Dealing with a Borderline withdrawal ?

I have been dating a guy who I suspect suffers from BPD ( my therapist kinda agrees with me -even though she never said that openly- ).

Long story short, he asks me every day how I am doing, he phones me if I am not feeling well, he's always present -virtually-, but since one of my outbursts of anger/fear of abandonment which led me to 'break up' with him ( we then got back together ), he stopped making an effort to see me. He is very childish and stubborn, and every immature as well, so veeeery complicated.

I, hence, addressed the problem by telling him very nicely ( via text, couldn't be bother waiting for him to meet me ) that I feel like he's not into me at all and that it makes me sad, that I am losing interest because he takes me for granted, and that his being cautious about commitment is just pushing me away. I then said that I need him to show me he wants to hang out with me or I'll take he's not interested. I told him to take his time and reply whenever he felt better ( I sent this when he was hangover ).

He never replied after this. It's been only 4 days, of which two he's been camping with no signal, and one of the days he was very hangover so probably not ready to reply. Point is that he always messaged me, every day, even if just to say hi, so this type of withdrawal is new.


How should I deal with this? I wanted to wait at least a week without contacting him, but what if he takes long to reply? if not forever?
Should I try to message him again/phone him, to make clear that I didn't want him to feel guilty about me being sad? and that I am not really losing interest but that I just need reassurance?

I want to give him space, but what if he's convincing himself I just don't care about him, that I am abandoning him, and that's why I am not checking up on him? or what if he feels guilty for making me sad, and for this reason he probably thinks it's better for me if he never messages me again?

I am confused! I have never been in a romantic relationship with someone like him.

reminds me of how i once behaved when i was wooing a woman. i'd text her good morning, add a small poem. n then on suddenly i'd skip a day only to hear back saying 'good morning, mr disappearing act.'

i was 21 then n didnt really have any pd as such.

i think it's quite normal to do such stuff. reason why i would do it cause i wondered if i'm intruding on her when i'm sending the first text all the time.