How does it feel when someone ignores you?

Whenever someone ignores me I will get really angry at them and might cause a scene or send them an abusive message to get them to respond, but if that doesn't work then I start to feel guilty and try to act nice to them so they pay attention to me.

If someone ignores me it invades my every thought ("do they hate me?", "what did I do wrong?", "will they ever talk to me again?", etc) and it actually makes me more attracted to them for some reason.

Is it like this for other people with BPD?

Yeah, recently my favourite person didn’t say goodbye to me before going on holiday and I felt ignored and sent her an angry message, every time she doesn’t reply to one of my messages I feel upset and angry and like she hates me and then I hate myself.

Feeling ignored is the worst.

Whenever I get ignored I get really angry and scared, wanting to threaten them by telling I'm suicidal due to them ignoring me and such but that's also because I actually often get suicidal when this happens. I'm scared that I'm being ignored because they're going to leave me. But it all depends on who's ignoring me though, if it's someone unimportant I just get sad and insecure, or maybe just annoyed at most.

I'm the same way. When my FP ignores me or doesn't respond to me, I accuse her of hating me and wanting me to die. I send a lot of abusive messages, yell at her, then apologize and threaten to die, acting as though I'm blaming myself when in my head I'm blaming her. When she does respond and makes up an excuse as to why she "couldn't answer me", I accuse her of being a liar and proceed to ignore her out of anger.

Pretty much the same as everyone above ^^^

I guess it depends on my relationships with the person, but I mostly get really angry and manipulative. If I’m close to you and like you a lot I may threaten you, threaten myself, blackmail you, I’ll claim I have something at your house that I need RIGHT NOW so I’m on my way over, I’ve stalked exes in the past, staked out in the woods to see why they might be ignoring me, just general mean nasty stuff I guess.

If I’m not attached to you in anyway, like a new coworker, I’ll just ignore your existence back and put you on my bad list of people I don’t like.

LOL, well my thoughts are totally different than those who have posted so far. I actually like being ignored, especially when I'm not in the mood to talk or be social. Being ignored is an Introverts dream. I can't think of many occasions I"ve felt ignored to be honest. Usually I have people chasing me around trying to get my attention

i split and devalue them and i often get narcissistic where instead of showing it like a borderline i just want to burn all bridges. i might change feelings later though.

I end up feeling pretty hurt when I'm ignored but I don't contact the person ignoring me, ever, to fix it. I just go through feeling like $#%^ for as long as I have to, or go around telling other people about it, till they make me feel better.

Then I split the person who ignored me, black-- and devalue them. I delete their contact info, convinced they hate me and I'm better off without them. It's the only thing that helps me feel better. I find being ignored to be worse than anything else!

Depending on how I'm feeling if the person replies to me, I sometimes act like nothing ever happened but I wouldn't forget it, and might take a long time to "forgive." Usually things work out the best when I admit to being hurt cause of getting ignored. Depending on how the other person handles it, it can patch things up or cause more rifts.

Most often, I might never talk to the other person again. I've lost friends this way, but still can't seem to be able to help myself.

i thought i was like everyone else but then i started noticing that when others said "i miss you, i hope to see you again"
i was thinking "i hate you ,i want to hurt you, i don't ever want to see you again i hope i never knew you ever existed,i hate you so much" and why aren't others angry with him.they are so pathetic.
and it even annoyed me how others are not angry.
but outside i could play it cool and pretend but inside it ruined the "relationship" because i detach.
or i really want to detach completely

When I was younger and a 'loud' borderline I'd do pretty much what everyone here has said. But now I'm older and my borderline is 'quieter' I tend to not show an outside reaction when I'm ignored. But inside I'm dying. Being ignored makes me feel like I'm not real, like I don't exist for that person and if I don't exist for them I shouldn't for anyone. And it's never the person's fault I'm hurting, always mine.