Finding it hard to deal with colleagues leaving

I feel like I've got worse with friends I work with leaving the job. There have been a succession of them and this is after my previous FP left me so I think that's why I'm finding them hard.

Got a new FP who is a colleague. Just found out today she is really struggling with the job and it's affecting her mental health. She is talking about leaving and I am finding it hard to cope with. To the point of feeling really panicked at the thought of it.

I've been honest with her and told her. She said she knew I would feel this way and that's why she didn't tell me sooner, which is bad because she feels terrible and I couldn't help. I feel like such a bad friend.

Obviously she needs to do what's best for her and I've told her that, but I'm really finding it hard. How can I get over this?

I understand but what helped me and i really wish to slap myself for this.

We are very very very very (times 100000) emotional. And we end up making impulsive decisions. What i advice is to let it out.

You will get over this eventually. Think of all the previous times when there were instances you thought you couldn't get over something.

Eventually your mind will get tired and you will heal. It's a long process though and very slow and painful.

Thanks Jaus. You're right of course.

My FP was having a really tough time today. As soon as she told told me I panicked, because I know she's coming to the conclusion that she will have to leave the company. The thought of it makes me feel terrible.

But I kept that to myself and focused on trying to help her and make her feel better.

I think there is a high probability of her leaving. I'm just going to assume she will leave and maybe then I can deal with it better. I think I'm doing a good job of supporting her, it would just be easier without these abandonment fears getting in the way.

The abandonment fears are very intense. one night i was chatting with a friend on social media. i was very sleepy and my eyes were drooping, but still i wanted to chat with him cause i didnt want to say 'goodbye, chat later' to him.

it's like i want to chat with him forever. even if there is nothing to chat about. i just want to chat with my friends forever. like stuck with them or something.

the abandonment pain is terrible. it almost feels as if someone is peeling off my skin and i just want to stay in touch forever.

wish i could offer an advice but i struggle myself to watch my friends go away while i yearn to chat with them.

My FP has handed in her notice and I can't deal with it. We totally ignored each other at work yesterday. Today she's off sick and I'm worried I have made her sick. All I do is make people sick. I knew that it would be hard if she left, but I didn't know it would hurt this much. All she is doing is leaving the job and I feel like she's leaving me. I can't talk to her. I can't even contact her to ask if she's ok.

i dont think you have made her sick. i think people who dont have ocd or any pd get over stuff very quickly.

could be you've hurt your non but its okay. you didnt do any permanent damage. i've seen some colleagues who left their jobs because of terrible terrible bosses. you're a far better person than those bosses.

chances are your fp has other reasons why she left the firm and other things on her mind right now.

i know it's lonely and tough to watch people go. i started crying when my colleagues left. it's almost like someone is slowly ripping off one arm without anesthesia.

listening to songs and reading life quotes on internet gave temporary relief. also venting here helped.

saying goodbye is never easy. which is why we must make most of the time we have. of the people who want to spend time with us.

i was learning driving from an instructor. today was last day n he was asking for some extra money just for the sake of it.

at first i felt guilty for not giving money. i ran home to get some money then realized what am i doing. i dont need to give him any money. i dont owe him anything. why should i pay. so i dont feel guilty for that now.