How do I cope with getting intensely infatuated?

Hi everyone, first time posting on these forums - I met a girl who's a family friend, spoke to her for an hour and now I haven't stopped thinking about her in 3 days - I feel like I have no chance at a shot with her, and now I feel suicidal because of it - despite the fact I met her once 6 years ago, and now again a few days ago, and I just feel like no one else in the world would be such a perfect match - but I feel like this every time a new girl comes along that I get infatuated with! Every girl is supposedly the actual perfect one and on every one before them I'm sure I was just "mistaken" - it is emotionally exhausting and I feel like I have no one to talk to as my family are all very emotionally stable and I feel far too embarrassed to tell them about how intense my emotions are.



I'm going to be seeing a lot more of her now as well, God, I don't know what to do, sorry for the weird writing style if there is one, my thoughts are just so disorganised -- I'm literally infatuated with her to the point of feeling that if I won the lottery, she would be the only person I'd want to be with, even with all the millions that would become potential partners -- it's just so horrible a feeling, especially as she is so far out of my league it's not even possible to risk imagining being together



Thanks so much to anyone who replies

How do you know you don't have a chance with her?

If you like her, go for it - she may just like you back. If you're not willing to go there or she isn't interested, then I find it best just to avoid avoid avoid lol. i gave in to a crush/infatuation like that. We ended up becoming great friends, but the emotional cost was very high and I've sworn to myself that if I ever get that hooked on a woman again and she isn't interested it's bye bye. It's not worth the emotional suffering that comes with the highs and lows of such intense feeling.

witchessabbath wrote:It's not worth the emotional suffering that comes with the highs and lows of such intense feeling.

I'm so not sure.

Why don't you feel like you have a shot with her? If she was able to speak with you for that long, then I don't see why she would think ill of you.

I think you should go for it if you really want to. Just try to make it seem natural, and don't bombard her.

However, if you feel like this with every girl you've ever liked, then you need to be prepared for what's going to happen when the new "perfect" girl comes along. You might end up being torn between the two girls and go through triangulation, which would be a mess.

Maybe try to find a middle ground. What do you like about this girl? What are her good qualities? Conversely, what do you not like about her? How would a relationship with her benefit you? And how would her being a relationship with you benefit her? Then, try to look at her from an unbiased and non-judgemental perspective. See what kind of conclusion you come to.

Good luck.

Could you perhaps be suffering from limerence?

http://www.limerence.net/limerence-faq/ ... ptoms.html