Under a lot of stress and its causing paranoia.

Right now, I've cut a few female friends out of my life due to not being able to handle any dramatics. I have BPD, and since I've had these girls start bad mouthing me in my community... I've been unbelievably paranoid. I'm 30, I'm not some hs girl, but I've been obsessing over what they're saying to people about me to the point I can barely calm down. Tumultuous relationships with all people is normal to me, but for some reason ...at the time..I'm getting very paranoid. Does anyone else get paranoid under stress and have tips to help bring me back to reality. Please

If you cut people out of your life, then you probably aren't being paranoid - they likely are talking about you. But if you no longer want them in your life - then do not worry about it. I always tell my daughters you can only please some people all of the time and some people all of the time, but it is impossible to please everyone all of the time.

If these are actually good friends that you just needed a break from, then you explain it to them and make amends later once you feel calm enough to deal with them.

And if not, well then you are better off alone than with people like that.