Time between episodes?

Everything im reading on BPD sounds a lot like my husband. We have been together two years, married almost one. He kicked me out at the beginning of our marriage and was down right mean to me, but then begged for me back when i said no...and now he just did it again and now i have a 2 month old by him. I am begging for him to stay and work on our family but he says i hurt him too much in the past and he's hundred percent done. I really love him but he is acting like he has no emotion to me or my daughters. If he in fact did have BPD, can they seem perfectly happy for a year and then do this, and will he come back to us?

I think it depends on whether someone gets triggered, but I don't know what your husband's triggers are. It's usually abandonment for BPD, but I think hat general stress, financial worries and work stress can trigger people. Sorry that I can't shed more light on it.

I think the above poster gave a pretty good response. For me personally, I was pretty much in remission for about a year, but getting into a rocky relationship in June brought it out again.

He will return eventually, don't worry. Now that you've had a baby, sooner or later he'll realize that it's about time he learned his lessons.

I was the same before my baby daughter was born - selfish, needy, snapping at my wife for no reason. But when I realized that my actions might hurt my baby, I've decided to become a better man. Now we have a happy, healthy relationship, my daughter is a little bundle of joy, and I love my wife more than anything. It's only because she was so patient with me, and because she believed in me all this time, that we've managed to create such a happy home.