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Emotionally shutdown?

Postby CygnusX1 » Sun Jul 17, 2016 2:14 pm

BPD are always described as have intense and rapidly shifting emotions. I don't see myself and doing this. Maybe I do sometimes and haven't looked at it. But I think I'm too emotionally shut down to do this. Is it possible that someone with BPD could have been so traumatized as a result of their shifting emotions that they become emotionally dead so they do have to suffer as much?
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Re: Emotionally shutdown?

Postby jaus tail » Sun Jul 17, 2016 3:17 pm

i relate to this. when i am with a group of people(colleagues, former friends, relatives) i become mechanical. i agree with whatever they say and wait for the conversation to be over.

avoiding places where i freeze emotionally n avoiding such situations helps. i dont socialize at all now. it gets boring but rather be alone than suffocate with people around me.
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Re: Emotionally shutdown?

Postby Remember Ronni » Sun Jul 17, 2016 5:02 pm

I was diagnosed with Avoidant personality disorder for 9 years because I come across that way. The BPD stuff is mostly internal for me, and the way I cope with that is to shut down.

Recently I met with my therapist after some meeting about me. She said those with BPD often take one of two paths. The majority have difficulty controlling emotions which can spill over a lot into real life - be that with anger or tears etc. Then there are those who are over controlled. They disconnect and shut down from their emotions. They want me to do this therapy at a specialist personality disorders department where they offer DBT with an added module called Radical Openness. This explains it better than I can

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SXmt1onyVM4

For me that fits quite well. It is much easier for me not to have to think or feel, so I avoid relationships or situations that would require me to be emotional.
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Re: Emotionally shutdown?

Postby Remember Ronni » Sun Jul 17, 2016 6:20 pm

Since I posted that I suddenly needed to come and post again. I do suffer from the over-control thing, but unlike the video it isn't because I am anxious about making mistakes or looking perfect. As a child I was kind of chucked into the parent role and my Mum was very keen on using threats of abandonment to control me. Not showing emotion kept me from getting into trouble for being too emotional or too over sensitive. It also lessened opportunities for people to hurt me - if I looked as if I didn't care they wouldn't try that again. I spent my childhood acutely attuned to my mother's moods and emotions so I kind of missed out on learning how to manage my own. It also felt safer not to have emotions.

I also don't think that people avoid me, I avoid them.
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