please help me

hi i am looking for someone who has borderline personality disorder to talk to because i am suffering from some symptoms and could really use some direction at least if i am wrong please give me some advice about how to find out what i am dealing with because nothing makes sense to me right now. i am sorry but i tried posting on the forum and got zero replies and do not know how to get people to help me. i need to know if i am suffering from bpd or something else or if i am in a relationship with someone who has this disorder because it is very confusing as to what is really going on at home lately. i do not have access to mental health services as i am living out of my home country. i feel very alone and scared and have been very angry as well. please help me i am desperate to understand what is going on

Hi leiladream
Your not alone so tell us what has been going on, a few concerns at a time and we can try and help you understand if we can ...ofc members here cant diagnose (we're not allowed) but if we see something we can tell you what we think ok

Hey. If you ever wanna PM me that option is open. I don't know a lot but I like to listen and might have some nugget of wisdom somewhere lol.

I know a few books that are helpful in BPD. It can be a bit tough without access to a therapist but it might give you a place to start figuring yourself out and what you need to get better.

Hey feel free to pm me if you ever need to and if you do end up thinking you have bpd but you don't have a professional diagnosis I think that's called a self diagnosis which is completely fine to me and many others but just be careful because there might be some who ridicule. Also if you think you have bpd tell the person you're with it will make everything much more open. Check out tumblr and search for bpd because that's where I sometimes go to vent and find advice if no ones answering here.

Echinacea wrote:Hi leiladream
Your not alone so tell us what has been going on, a few concerns at a time and we can try and help you understand if we can ...ofc members here cant diagnose (we're not allowed) but if we see something we can tell you what we think ok

Hi Echinacea thank you so much for your reply. It really means a lot to me. I will post my concerns, maybe one at a time and it would help to know if I am right. I understand that members are not allowed to diagnose me. That does makes sense... I can try to read more here as well and try to figure it out.

Can you please tell me what TW means? I see it a lot in this forum.

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witchessabbath wrote:Hey. If you ever wanna PM me that option is open. I don't know a lot but I like to listen and might have some nugget of wisdom somewhere lol.

I know a few books that are helpful in BPD. It can be a bit tough without access to a therapist but it might give you a place to start figuring yourself out and what you need to get better.

Thank you very much for your support. I might PM you then sometime to ask you about this stuff. It is very very confusing.

I plan to start therapy when I get back home, I feel I need it. What books would you recommend? I really hate the way the internet makes people with BPD sound so horrible. It makes it a lot more harder to talk about this with anyone because I'm afraid of being judged

AVIKINGKING wrote:Hey feel free to pm me if you ever need to and if you do end up thinking you have bpd but you don't have a professional diagnosis I think that's called a self diagnosis which is completely fine to me and many others but just be careful because there might be some who ridicule. Also if you think you have bpd tell the person you're with it will make everything much more open. Check out tumblr and search for bpd because that's where I sometimes go to vent and find advice if no ones answering here.

Hi, what if you're not comfortable opening up with the person you're with? I feel very uncomfortable talking to my partner lately because we both misunderstand each other so much.

Also, can you please help me understand what you mean by some who ridicule-- do you mean on the forum? Thanks for replying to my message as well, and I will check tumblr. The past month has been hell for me.

leiladream wrote:Can you please tell me what TW means? I see it a lot in this forum.

*TW* is trigger warning
it helps people to know that there is some comment in post that may upset or trigger them, then they have a choice to read or come back later when they feeling up to it

If you're not comfortable telling your lover about bpd then try just to mention symptoms and say how certain things bother you. Also what I mean by people who ridicule is that there some who say that self diagnosis isn't valid which I believe isn't true at all because not everyone has access to doctor. It's like saying a man who is vomiting and tired all the time isn't sick because he hasn't gone to the doctor. You're the person who knows yourself the best so you decide But of course if there is an opportunity to speak with a doctor I would recommend taking it because it would only help. Also going back to telling your lover advice I would honestly try to tell them the truth because I ended my last relationship due to a couple of issues that maybe could have been resolved if I were more honest about my reactions to things.