NPD and BPD

What is it about NPDers that attracts us BPDers?

Discuss!

Having left one myself, it's a DREAM.

Got one theory, and I don't mean anything bad by this.

The BPD girls I've met all wanted to be "saved" to some extent. Wanted someone to take away the pain and chaos, wanted someone to hold on to who'd always be there. And since I'm relatively unphazed by stuff and can remain stoic even in the storms, I'm seen as a reliable protector. I'm also good at sniffing out what people want in a partner, so in my obsessive phaze I basically present myself as everything they've ever wanted and I'm very caring and good for them.

So maybe narcissists are percieved as "strong" because we're arrogant twats. Something to hold on to. And as long as I'm obsessed with controlling you I'm gonna be the girl of your dreams. what's not to like?

For a while...

Lusid wrote:

So maybe narcissists are percieved as "strong" because we're arrogant twats. Something to hold on to. And as long as I'm obsessed with controlling you I'm gonna be the girl of your dreams. what's not to like?

For a while...

Wow like reading about myself.
I also study very detailed my partner and making myself FAST become everything what he could dream about. I can even do something I do not usually like to adapt the picture. Like chameleon.
And yes… what here not to like? If you have met person of your dreams?