I hate nons.

Kinda. Sometimes. This is a #######4 post but seriously, it's something I think about from time to time.

It's like how they speak about us with such ill intent. I get sick of it and start to hate them and their "normalcy" and "healthiness" which seems like complete and utter #######4. More just like an ability to conform.

Its funny how much $#%^ we get for being so terrible yet they have such little sympathy for people who are suffering much more they are in a lot of ways.

I hardly want to associate with people who arent mentally ###$ in some capacity.
Thats not to say I always get along with people who are mentally ###$ either, but they seem so much more real to me as people.

I'm sleep deprived and this is a half baked rant. Maybe I'll go more into it tomorrow. I have some theories about why nons arent as wonderful as they like to make themselves out to be.

Anyone else.... anyone?

Lol

I sometimes experience this too. But have to remind myself we are all only human, and if they can hate us for being different and scary (which is not okay), we will be doing the exact same thing by hating them for being normal. Then how is anything supposed to change?

I can see where you're coming from. I've seen a lot of vitriol over on the NPD forum from nons directed at the narcs there.

The thing is a normal, well adjusted person cannot comprehend personality disorders. It's just difficult for them to wrap their healthy little brains around deep-seated maladaptive coping mechanisms and dysfunction. They assume there is always malicious intent. They have anger management skills, healthy coping mechanisms, all these things they learned as children and that are normal to them, they can't understand why we can't just stop being this way, that we choose not to, and that therefore we are malignant, malicious, evil people.

It isn't really difficult to understand how they reach that conclusion.

Some of these people had a parent with BPD or NPD or what have you and were severely damaged by that parent and are thus predisposed to have animosity and mistrust toward the mentally ill.

Something I've learned over the years is "always assume positive intent." Most people mean well, they aren't trying to be massive sh*tlords, they just do not understand because they do not perceive the world the way you do. Even with a lot of research most of them probably cannot understand and relate to you and your maladaptive coping mechanisms any more than you can flip a switch and stop being borderline, or narcissistic, or antisocial, or whatever.

Always assume positive intent. In many cases I've gotten a lot of tough love in my life from people who genuinely thought that it would help, because tough love works for reasonably well adjusted people. It just doesn't work for people like me, it is in fact one of the worst ways to address personality disorders imo. They simply do not understand or comprehend that.

Why hold grudges against those that are ignorant and refuse to understand? that's their problem.

When I was hurt by someone with BPD , I would blame thier caretakers .
Parents ,abusive uncle , etc. who neglected or abused them as children.

Recently met a woman with BPD amongst other issues. Totally creative, brilliant, friendly, spirited etc. Good person. Hard to dislike someone like that.

I had a friend (non) who always used to say "assume positive intent." Unfortunately there are things you shouldn't say or do no matter how much you say you "love me" or want me to assume "positive intent."
"Self-induced trauma," for example.
I still want to talk to him because I assume he didn't mean to hurt me, but I never want to hear that ever again.

Plus non or not, they have their own stuff going on. The best we can do is try to take care of ourselves.

I don't think that many people would recognise whether someone had a personality disorder and there are degrees of it and it manifests differently in each person. A lot of nons probably haven't even heard of it.

I'm diagnosed with bipolar and borderline traits. My psychiatrist said I can't have a full personality disorder because I have a good relationship that's been going for years, worked full time before my last bipolar episode and I'm too organised. I don't think it's that simple. I think I probably do have a PD of some sort.

Nons are fine. They are calm and respectful. They can be helpful since their emotional maturity compels and enables them to let us know when we're out of line, but in a very chill, respectful way (of letting us know).

It's narcissists who think they are Nons that make me want to break things.