i hate being ignored

how do you deal with it?

I'm getting better. its not with everyone, other people i couldn't care less...but sometime being ignored hurts.

Do you mean friends just not paying attention to you, or do you mean the silent treatment?

both. im being ignored or blown off by someone...right now. it shouldnt matter but it does.

Hi bianca

I can relate. I have made it clear to everyone in my life who's important that ignoring me is absolutely the most damaging act that can perform.

Even if an individual is so angry or upset with me they cannot find the words to express how they feel, just a single line articulating that prevents me from losing my mind. I have cut people out of my life Iife in the past because they subjected me to silence.

I suppose how you react depends upon how much having this person or persons around matters to you.

hI Bianca,

It is the most cruel punishment imaginable, being on the receiving end of silent treatment and its very unnerving i agree, that feeling of not knowing what they are thinking its torture and I can really empathize with you...

Just give her time, she will calm down im sure

Can i ask though, is she a Non?
I ask because behaviors are different depending on certain information , emotional state etc...

I know how you feel... To be ignored is the absolute worst thing for me. I'd rather someone literally told me they hated me and never wanted to speak to me again instead of ignoring me. I can deal with the most bitter, cruel argument, I manage alright, but it's when I get ignored that I just really cannot tolerate and what I feel starts to get overwhelming.

I think for most people they prefer to ignore people and they don't feel unanswered messages or unreturned calls in the same way we do, they're just small things for them, not something that your totally preoccupied with for ages.

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well, ive been the recipient of the silent treatment from someone ive cared about and yes it's the most cruel thing possible.

this particular situation probably is the tail end of general acquaintances not replying to my friendly "hey thought of you how are you" msgs and at first I'm like weird, and then i send another a few months later, that still gets ignored. then i get the sense that this person just doesnt want to be my friend anymore. i don't know why...

now this guy who i have a complicated but not serious, just really weird, history with, wont reply to my hey, how are you...friendly msgs....

I'm feeling like rejected loser. lol. i guess i should do something that makes me feel the opposite.

biancayagger wrote:well, ive been the recipient of the silent treatment from someone ive cared about and yes it's the most cruel thing possible.

this particular situation probably is the tail end of general acquaintances not replying to my friendly "hey thought of you how are you" msgs and at first I'm like weird, and then i send another a few months later, that still gets ignored. then i get the sense that this person just doesnt want to be my friend anymore. i don't know why...

now this guy who i have a complicated but not serious, just really weird, history with, wont reply to my hey, how are you...friendly msgs....

I'm feeling like rejected loser. lol. i guess i should do something that makes me feel the opposite.

If folk don't respond when you're reaching out cordially then ###$ 'em.

Sometimes (often) it's them and not you.

The world is large. Surround yourself with people who appreciate you.

I hate it. I can't stand it. Like you, it's only with certain people. I get stressed. I get anxious. My fear of abandonment kicks in. If i'm not stable, and depending on how long they've been ignoring me etc., I start doing crazy things. Right now, I am stable (No idea y. Maybe it's the medication) so I would probably bombard the person with messages/calls but that's it.

How do I deal with it? I don't know. Like I said, I don't even know why I am stable right now. Maybe it's the medication. So maybe consider that? Are you in therapy? When it comes to short term things you can do, maybe distraction? Talk to someone else? Don't stay in your bed/room obsessing about why that person is ignoring you. You basically have to keep busy. Maybe keep an eye on how many msgs/calls you've sent etc. You need to be very self aware. It hurts but just tell yourself 'this too shall pass.'

I know how much it hurts but it's just one of those things that comes with the BPD. Therefore, you need to find a way to deal with it because it's not going away.