[b]Are we here for help or to judge?[/b]

I am saddened by what I see throughout the forum for BPD. I see constant judging amongst ourselves targeting not only ourselves but others as well. I am not perfect and have been the perfect poster child for BPD and now I am on the road to recovery and healing. All of it has taken hard work and effort on my part and there is help out there! Dont give up, if your therapist isn't the right one, find another, if your meds need changing, change them, if you don't know what you need to know, educate yourself and others. For those of you that are family/spouses/friends of one with BPD, find the book 'Stop Walking on Eggshells'. This will help everyone including us with BPD. For those of us with this complex illness, try Dialectical Behaviour Therapy, you can access books and or look up Marsha Linehan on the net and she has a wonderful website and Clinic in Seattle Washington. There are many links that are also useful and you can apply right there to get into the program. It also lets everyone know where you can access this Therapy. The program is offered all over North America.

The best we can do is to cheer each other on, do the opposite of what we are feeling when we are destructive and first seek to understand if we are involved with someone with BPD.

May God Bless everyone in this new Year.