Newbie... Pushed final friend away...

I didn't realise I'd registered and even posted here sometime ago but I have no recollection!

So...I have reached the point where I have pushed my final friend away...I have no one left...how do I begin to try to cope with this. I think I abandoned all my other friends in order to invest everything in this final friendship...this is all my own doing.

I have a million feelings tied into this but I can't put it into words yet. I'm so alone...I want my friend back. My heart is shattered. Please...any advice?

I don't really have any advice, other than are you sure you're beyond the point of no return with the friendship?

I am so sorry to hear this. I can only imagine that you feel sad, lost, terrified.....

I push too hard and try too hard - if I do that again my desperation will only make it worse. His memory of me will be even more insane. I wish he wanted to understand me. I want to cling to him so bad. I don't even know... This is all my life ever is

I know how it feels to want to be more to someone than you actually are to them. It is devastating. I'm sorry.

Maybe things can cool off and you can reach out to him again? Or maybe you can try some activities that could help you make new friends?

I think I need to do both those things...my rational mind knows that...but I'm over come with fear and hatred and I just want to isolate myself, stay safe under my duvet forever. Not really alive...just pretending. I got help not to lose THIS friendship but here I am again. SMH

at times its better to let go off the friendship, for the other person's sake

for me, friendship is about being there when needed and not about facebook likes or texting all day

eventually people do move on...
i had a very close friend in my previous work place. we'd spend all tea breaks together but now we're not in touch. there's nothing to talk, he's in a different firm and so am i. the telephone conversations dont last long...

earlier i used to think that my friends have abandoned me but chances are that they have issues of their own to deal with rather than help me with my challenges...

i would think of them as my guardian and expect a lot from them...

i had trouble moving on but then, that's my problem and not my friends. this forum helped me a lot...

and are you sure that you have pushed him away, what do you assume the friend would say if you give a call?

Don't worry OP. You'd be surprised as to how long the human mind can live in isolation.

Just ask me... I haven't had a visitor in months, and I have essentially no family either, since my parents are drunks and I rarely feel the need to visit them.

I haven't had a personal incoming phone call for about three years, other than work, telemarketers, and the likes.

It is what it is.

Hi Lula, i know how hard it is to lose a significant friendship, been there. There is this thing where we pull an isolation thing after something like this happens, but that's not the most productive thing to do in the long run. For now maybe just take care of yourself and not push yourself to do stuff you cant, and just allow time for your emotions to cool off. <3

-- Mon Nov 17, 2014 12:59 pm --

Jeff Spicoli wrote:Don't worry OP. You'd be surprised as to how long the human mind can live in isolation.

Just ask me... I haven't had a visitor in months, and I have essentially no family either, since my parents are drunks and I rarely feel the need to visit them.

I haven't had a personal incoming phone call for about three years, other than work, telemarketers, and the likes.

It is what it is.

Jeff, yes we can all live in isolation if we choose to, but i don't see how this is helpful to someone's healing in the long run. I hope you can push through this, too.