will you have sex with me ---TW---

They will need more game than all that. I would say something slightly dismissive but flirtatious.

I only judge people by their own standards, but when I do, it's with deep contempt and superiority.

If I wasn't in a relationship, and the person who asked me for sex was attractive to me I'd say yes. But I am in a relationship, so I'd say no to anyone.

angelinbluejeans wrote:All humans are 'judgmental' to some degree...

except those with out empathy? (i know i never don't and i take it it's that)


all judgment is a fear of the self and a justification of the self(own rules)


this is not good or bad it's just human nature
the way they make sens of the world and there place in it
i stress not a bpd thing a human thing
i don't feel the need to justefy myself and when i see humans having to make thier brains make loops like that in oderer to keep sane i really don't think i'm suffering
they are
i'm an asshole they think they are not

judging by my past, I probably would

madjoe wrote:<les impuls controle than most ppl here it seems

SAME ^


I will have sex with anyone I find attractive. That is my only qualifying standard. I commonly have sex with men that I've only known for minutes (took home from bar), or even craigslist (strangers). I like having sex in public too; those are just my kinks, and I keep this completely secret from my friends. People are waaaaay too judgemental when it comes to sex. It's just sex.

all judgment is a fear of the self and a justification of the self(own rules)

I disagree. Certainly some judgement is projection in this sense. However, I have abandoned all but the most pervasive of this kind of judgmental behavior. I rarely impose my judgements on other people. With me, they can do whatever they like with impunity unless they initiate force: violence, theft, fraud. That is for my judgements. I do reserve the "right" to judge people by their own standards. I eventually hope to stop all judgmental tendencies, but I haven't arrived there yet.

For instance, a chick wildly flips out on me interrupting her too much. Okay. I will make a note of that in two ways. There is a new rule, I don't interrupt her. And another equally important new rule, she had best not interrupt me. Now, I will still be pretty laid back about interruption, but let's say she did it to the extent that justified her flip out.

Batten down the hatches; the tempest is begun.

<TW>Or, let's say someone gossips about someone who became pregnant without the means to support a baby, saying, "That stupid whore shouldn't have opened her legs if she is incapable of caring for a child." If she does the same I will tear her down with word for word quotes of what she said about the other chick. Then I will also tear her down for hypocrisy.</TW>

I don't think this is projection, but I accept that it might be a projection of my feelings toward my own inconsistencies. Even so, judgement is still not universally projection. It is when when you decide upon an opinion of something. It isn't always about self. I judge people as trustworthy, strong or genuine. I also judge people as willfully ignorant, stupid or a follower.

I judge this website as including too many unnecessary browser side scripts (especially ones that report back cookies to give information about your crazy problems to Facebook, Twitter and Google so their ads will better target you), too public given the subject matter and having too high a moderator turn-over rate in recent years. What am I projecting there? I also judge it as having supportive people and making an impact on my life. What fear does that indicate?

I will add that I found it of interest on the subject of being 'judgmental' that Psychology Today wrote: " ....Remove the judgment. This is probably one of the hardest things for us to do because we’re so conditioned to it. We judge. We judge each other and we judge ourselves—probably even more harshly. Think about it: What do you tell yourself all day long? What does that inner critic say when you’re running late or when your project has failed? How about when you look at yourself in the mirror? Remember how feelings move? Well, our inner critic creates a lot of feelings—fear, self-doubt, shame, embarrassment, sadness, loneliness. Quiet the critic and you’ll save yourself a lot of pain..." by Kimberly Key, M.A.
8 Essentials for a Happier Life

i don't have stands for myself or others
so i don't Judge
i'm just entertained (sounds a lot narcisitc i know )
judging ppl is trying to make them live by the rules
those rules are made by you and your tribe
i don't belong to a tribe
this fact makes it that ppl are a lot more open to my imput (i can get away with a lot more)
and they are very comfortable to confide in me
i can listen somtimes give my impression but i never Judge
ppl are traped in their own believes neratives ideology and other rules
this is a hinderance to creativity (outside the box thinking)
and even the perception of reality

ps i will have sexwith everyone here (preferably at the same time)
(supper freak, supper freak i'm supperfreaky)

so judging someone is also trying to make someone join your tribe
and and act of empathy
(trying to determen if someone is from your tribe or someone elses)