Daydreaming/Fantasizing

Do you think BPD daydream/fantasize more than normal?
I find myself sometimes zoning out daydreaming, talking to myself or running around my apartment.
Many times I fantasize about romantic relationships, sexual escapades... in the past for about 10 years I had a whole imaginary family in my head (parents, kids of certain ages, even had names for them) that I would make up stories for them. I haven't thought of that imaginary family in a very long time. most my thoughts recently are about men/sex or obsessing about something or worrying about my disorder.

I think any untreated personality disorder resorts to fantasies out of a level of self-defense. The only differences are that the fantasies may relate to whatever the specific personality disorder is driven by or has the most difficulty achieving in reality. Naturally true intimacy can be a common fantasy thought out in any PD and especially borderline since it is grounded largely in a fear of abandonment/engulfment that makes true intimacy impossible until the disorder is treated. A narcissist might fantasize often about becoming the head of a company or becoming a famous star that everyone looks up to simply out of their own personal grandiose accomplishments. A paranoid may fantasize about a world where they can truly know the ones closest to them won't betray them. An obsessive-compulsive personality disordered person may fantasize about a world where no one has the "flaws" they constantly perceive in others. All the disorders may mesh these various fantasies in different ways at different times or have varying fantasies of their own. I think the fantasizing was a way to escape and self-defend from a painful environment when the person was a child and the fantasizing hangs on into adulthood until those past pains are resolved. (I know because I use to have a PD). Not to say that it's not normal to fantasize when you're completely better. It's normal for any human to fantasize from time to time. But to do it to an extravagant extent can become unhealthy and self-destructive at times once we're adults. It all gets better with healing though!

I daydream about being abused, raped, kidnapped, ect, all the time. That's more like flashbacks and maladaptive daydreaming, though. In your case it's probably a defense mechanism and some dissociation. If it's not too intrusive or harmful, I wouldn't worry about it. Everyone daydreams about different things and at different levels.

I don't know if people with BPD daydream more often than others... but I do. It's definitely unhealthy and totally unproductive in my case... yet I don't want it to stop.

My life has kind of sucked. I daydream about starting all over again, not making the mistakes I made... I daydream about having another family. I started doing that when I was a kid, wishing I could get away from mine. It makes me feel better, but it's totally a waste of time.

Even i day dream a lot. whenever i see a movie scene action, romance, comedy any scene i immediately dream of myself as the central hero and my friends/neighbors/acquantainces as supporting characters.

it's the same when i hear/read of a terror attack or a disaster.i have this greed to be seen as a hero. it has ruined my relationships because there are times when i do things that i see in a movie and expect the other person to react as per my wish and that doesn't happen all the time.

i think it's because i'm not a hero in the real world, like dreaming is an escape mechanism from the real world.

ofc i daydream.

However, my real dreams are much more intense. They feel more real than reality. Might have something to do with dissociation. I want to experience the real world like i experience my dreams. Btw, i sometimes fall in love with girls from my dreams. I just woke up from such a dream.

It's like my mind dulls the emotions when i am awake. ... it's why i feel so empty all the time. My mind somehow learned that emotions are dangerous... so i operate like a robot.

I don't want to be a robot. Bleurgh. I hate this damn dissociated feelings. (I say i hate this, but i don't feel it)

Yes I have daydreamed a hell of a lot.. Most of my life. Bot sure if it has anything to do with BPD though.. I love daydreaming, but I've done it too much. We all need to stop and live instead.

I can fantasize, often listening to music, however I am not talking about sexual fantasies. Often I dream for example that I make some great achievement that makes other people accept me as a person etc, sometimes its just silly stuff and a bit embarrassing so I won't say all of it

@thejan, I completely relate to that. My dreams are often so much more "real" than reality... more satisfying, more involving. I dissociate a lot as well, which makes me feel like I'm not fully present in my life.

I often lately have been wondering what is normal. I feel like I try to stay in fantasy land to escape my loneliness. I really enjoy it at times but I have to go back to reality. I was married for 15 years single for 5 and just in the last 8 month started kinda dating this one guy I fell so in love with but when I was not with him he would not talk to me. I would tell any girl myself to move on which is what my friends say to me. He did tell me a couple times he loved me. I see him at work time to time too. When I fantasize I know it's not real and it's not going to make anything happen, but for a moment I can be the happiest girl alive with him. This takes up most of my day thinking & daydreaming. I daydream about other stuff too and have a blast dancing around singing with my friends that aren't really there. What is normal?