Have you ever have a ex that did this?

They broke up with you or vice versa and they slandered your name and how much they hated you or strung you along. But at the same time they try to stay in your life by trying to get info from family and friends. Or even stalk you. Why try to stay connected with the person you have no feelings for and never did? And when you try to get into a relationship they are there to warn the person of how bad you are and to stay away. Why waste energy on this person that is no longer in your life that you have no feelings for/

Yep. This is pretty much how -all- my breakups play out. It doesn't matter who breaks up with whom. The guy gets pissed off, and talks bad about me, treats me like $#%^. Then he fishes for info from my friends, family or facebook. Then the stalking. *Yawn* Then all the apologetic begging, "I'm so sorry, I can't believe how I acted". Then my response, "###$ off, I don't care".

Once you burn me, I'm done. It doesn't matter even if I still have feelings for you, I don't forgive.

Myprincecharming wrote: Why waste enegy on this person that is no longer in your life that you have no feelings for/

Because they still have feelings for you. If you don't care about a person, you are indifferent. Men, I think are way less in tune with their feelings, and tend to bury them. That's why they seemingly" move on" so quickly at first. Then they are blindsided later on when their buried feelings emerge and realize that they still love you. The earlier sabotaging behavior was a attempt to break any connection with you, provoke a reaction (because they still want your attention even if negative). It's dumb.

Most of my exes have a PD they never want to see you happy they are so bitter it is unreal! They are so envious when you move on and are not hurt it makes them rage lol They lack common sense which don't help the slandering makes them look bitter and jealous. That also is tied to the lack of common sense and immaturity

No offence but this doesn't sound like "normal" male (or female) behaviour.

katana wrote:No offence but this doesn't sound like "normal" male (or female) behaviour.

Do you think they have a pd? Or something else?