Rejection *TW*

How do you deal with rejection? This can be either romantically or just friendship-wise, or rejection of any kind.

For me, it's very hard to let it go. I always need to know why, and if I feel that the answer is unfair, I'll keep asking why. I know it only pushes people away, so I wonder how you guys deal with it.

Trigger Alert!I actually don't handle it very well. Just this past week, I have frostbit my arm, taken a Xanax that isn't mine and passed out at work for like an hour.

Can I say - the mere sighting of this post immediately made me feel nausea and just this disturbing giddiness. It is hard to describe. But, it's about the worst feeling I can go through.

To me... Rejection is death.

It is horrific. I have zero tolerance, hence, I will avoid putting myself in any position where I can be rejected.

For instance (as a guy), I have never asked a girl out in my life. Never! I will wait until they make it so bleatingly obvious, and more or less ask me out. Yes, I have (I have find out in hindsight) missed dating a lot of girls because they figured I wasn't interested because I never asked them out.

Likewise, I have never applied for a job in 15 years. Each time I leave a job, I wait for the phone to ring before being offered the next. I could not handle applying for a job and not getting it. The rejection would be simply soul destroying.

I have spent my entire life doing my best to avoid rejection. Because, on the few occasions I have been rejected, it has got very, very ugly.

As I say... Rejection is death!

Rejection is the worst thing that can happen to me and destroys me. Fear of rejection is why Id on't approach girls. Even this thread made me all sick and panic attacky. hate it and on top of that I really don't handle it well when it actually happens.

Rejection in any form can break me. Ouch. That's a difficult thing to admit to.

I will avoid situations/friendships/relationships just so that I can eliminate that probability. The thing is though I have missed out on a lot due to fear and just because I waited for the approaching from others it never guaranteed that rejection wouldn't follow.

It has. Many times.

reflection wrote:Rejection in any form can break me. Ouch. That's a difficult thing to admit to.

I will avoid situations/friendships/relationships just so that I can eliminate that probability. The thing is though I have missed out on a lot due to fear and just because I waited for the approaching from others it never guaranteed that rejection wouldn't follow.

It has. Many times.

Story of my life and it gets me so upset. I am wasting my life.

Hayabusa wrote:Story of my life and it gets me so upset. I am wasting my life.

Don't do it then Haya. Believe me I know that is easy for me to say from where I am but I can relate and I have so many regrets. And though others tell me it isn't so I myself feel as though I wasted a large section of my life. The years have been about me without being about ME.

You have to fight that fear. No one can tell you how to do it. No one can do it for you. Be impulsive. We are good at that. Instead of being impulsive in a negative way use it in a positive way. Baby steps. Do something small that you fear. Try at first to make sure it is something that will have a positive outcome. It will help to build up your confidence. Then build on that.

It won't always be what you want it to be but at the very least you know you were able to do it.