Diagnosing ugly people with BDD is cruel

No it wasn't that site actually!

Oh ok, thanks for clarifying that, I'll remember that the next time I feel like throwing my self of a bridge ! Just another thing to add to my list.

And no I won't! Why would I? so you can can confirm wether I'm ugly or not, or wether or not I have BDD I don't think so!!

Katrinas-x wrote:No it wasn't that site actually!

Oh ok, thanks for clarifying that, I'll remember that the next time I feel like throwing my self of a bridge ! Just another thing to add to my list.

And no I won't! Why would I? so you can can confirm wether I'm ugly or not, or wether or not I have BDD I don't think so!!

By adolescence, most people know where they stand on the looks spectrum. If you think you're ugly, then you probably are. Also, if you weren't ugly, you would have had at least a few people compliment your looks as well as romantic interest by age 15 or so. If you've never experienced that, it's probably safe to assume you're ugly.

I would also like to add that you in fact win first prize for the most hypocritical topic title i've ever seen!

God help us if we lived in a world governed by you where we all had to be symettrical and look like the cast of Jersey shore, what a great world that would be.

Rotherham wrote:People with asymettrical faces who are considered ATTRACTIVE;

Rachel Leigh Cook
Naomi Watts
Shannen Doherty
Owen Wilson
Paris Hilton
Marisa Tomei
Alana de la Garza

These people are asymmetrical by Hollywood standards. They are not asymmetrical by any normal standards. Also, as I've been saying, symmetry is one of the two main components of attractiveness. Proportion is the other one, and it can make up for asymmetry to some extent.

[quote=twoface]These people are asymmetrical by Hollywood standards. They are not asymmetrical by any normal standards. Also, as I've been saying, symmetry is one of the two main components of attractiveness. Proportion is the other one, and it can make up for asymmetry to some extent.[/quote]

Well then all actors and actresses are good looking by Hollywood standards. Symmetry may be a contributory factor in determing the base attractiveness of a person but it is by no means the be all and end all.

Personality, character, outlook on life, lifestyle, resolve, aura are all valid also.

-- Tue May 15, 2012 10:44 pm --

twoface wrote:

Katrinas-x wrote:No it wasn't that site actually!

Oh ok, thanks for clarifying that, I'll remember that the next time I feel like throwing my self of a bridge ! Just another thing to add to my list.

And no I won't! Why would I? so you can can confirm wether I'm ugly or not, or wether or not I have BDD I don't think so!!

By adolescence, most people know where they stand on the looks spectrum. If you think you're ugly, then you probably are. Also, if you weren't ugly, you would have had at least a few people compliment your looks as well as romantic interest by age 15 or so. If you've never experienced that, it's probably safe to assume you're ugly.

I've had people call me ugly and i've also had people call me good looking. I've also had a few girlfriends where do i stand on your spectrum Mr black & white?

Rotherham wrote:And my PROBLEM is that you come on a forum, where vulnerable people come on, and in a position of extreme responsibility you denounce BDD and say that all people who consider themselves ugly are in fact ugly and should have their faces 'corrected' by surgery.

How would you feel if somebody who read this lost all hope and killed themselves all for your little kicks you selfish individual?

The people on this forum are vulnerable because they are ugly. Being ugly absolutely sucks -- I know what it's like.

My point is that your perceptions of your ugliness and not necessarily a delusion. It's far more likely that your BDD symptoms are due your realization that you are ugly, not some convenient misconception.

Counseling and therapy will not change the way you look. They will not make you more physically attractive. If you are truly ugly, it makes sense to correct your unattractive features first before worrying that you may have some psychological problem.

By adolescence, most people know where they stand on the looks spectrum. If you think you're ugly, then you probably are. Also, if you weren't ugly, you would have had at least a few people compliment your looks as well as romantic interest by age 15 or so. If you've never experienced that, it's probably safe to assume you're ugly.

Ok! Thanks for letting me know! I don't what your aim was but I can tell you, you have sucssefully made me feel awful! You have put in a place I constantly have to fight to stay out of! You know confirming for someone that they are ugly is one of the worst things you can do to someone who suffers from BDD! I hope your pleased with yourself!!!!!

In no way is that a fact. I have watched program after program with people on who i would consider very attractive who are absolutely convinced they are hideous.

Your mind is perfectly capable of playing tricks on you, i have seen it with my own eyes. The most obselete defect to some people can be almost dehabilitating for others.

Your sweeping sentiments do not do Body DYSMORPHIA justice whatsoever. Thankyou for contributing to the sterotype of people unfamiliar with the disorder.

-- Tue May 15, 2012 10:51 pm --

Katrinas-x wrote:

By adolescence, most people know where they stand on the looks spectrum. If you think you're ugly, then you probably are. Also, if you weren't ugly, you would have had at least a few people compliment your looks as well as romantic interest by age 15 or so. If you've never experienced that, it's probably safe to assume you're ugly.

Ok! Thanks for letting me know! I don't what your aim was but I can tell you, you have sucssefully made me feel awful! You have put in a place I constantly have to fight to stay out of! You know confirming for someone that they are ugly is one of the worst things you can do to someone who suffers from BDD! I hope your pleased with yourself!!!!!

Don't give him the satisfaction of thinking he has destroyed your resolve.

Here's an example of what I mean. This guy in the picture below is objectively ugly. He has no chin or jawline. No woman would find him attractive at all. I'm sure he was really depressed about his looks, and any psychiatrist would have diagnosed him with BDD in a second.

However, he opted for surgery, and now he looks so much better. I'm sure his self-esteem and confidence have skyrocketed now that he's handsome, and I doubt he displays BDD symptoms anymore. So surgery likely cured his BDD and made him handsome. That's why it's a much better option for people who are truly ugly.

Link here (picture is too big to post):*mod edit*

You've picked one example to suit your agenda, and yet thousands of attractive people find themselves thinking they are ugly because of body dysmorphia.

And as for nobody finding him attractive, as much as after surgery (thank God he had the money and everything went well during and post op) he might have gained himself a bit of self esteem had he had the self esteem originally i am fairly optimistic he would have still found a partner.

And BDD is very much about obsessions, as my therapist has told me many people with BDD will have surgery on their nose for example, and never be satisfied because they are soo self critical. Surgery isn't the holy grail you make it out to be.

And one last thing before i go to bed, congratulations on being the one person who actually makes me proud to have a crooked nose. I would much rather be defective and be human than be someone like you who seems to think everyone should have surgery so thanks very much for that. Unfortunately you will probably have your desired effect on some poor individuals who will take to heart what you say, i can only apologise on your behalf and pray they don't do themselves any damage thanks in no part to your needless self indulges.

Until next time.