Obsessed with one side of my face

I have the same exact problem as you. One side of my face is really pretty and feminine. The other side of my face is not necessarily ugly, but it is masculine. My jaw is more square, my eyebrow lower than the other side and just....I don't know, it's a guy face. It looks ugly compared to my pretty feminine half of my face. I hate that half of my face. It always felt like I had such a nice body until someone sewed 2 different faces together and slapped it on me. To make things worse, it's noticeable, as in other people have pointed it out/noticed it before. One of my more insensitive gay guy friends told me "You're so pretty.....well at least one half of your face is." To which my other friends shushed him and smacked him as if they all knew it too but kept quiet to spare my feelings. I hate it and I feel so subconscious about it and have done all the stuff you have done about it. I almost wish I could get I fixed surgically. I don't like having a face that's half girl and half guy.

Hello, I have recently been diagnosed with BDD and It's crazy to read things on here that I do myself. I am obsessed with many things about myself but my lack of symmetry on my face is also one. I hide my fringe over one side of my face because my eye brow is a bit lower and my eye lid is more shut. I too only have photos on one side of my face and my nose is a different shape standing from one side. I'm looking in to an eye lift and a nose job. I would also like veneers to make my teeth bigger... the list goes on.

Hey everyone, just wondering if any of you who have posted here have gotten better since you last posted? If you have, please please can you either just say you have (so I know there is hope), or even better tell me how you overcame this?
I have the same issues as what you posted and am so glad I found other people like me!! I look like two completely different people on each side (my ok side which is me, and my evil side which just does not look like the me am (friendly, kind face), instead its harsh and horrid). On the one side I like, it is feminine and quite pretty with a straight nose that flicks up a bit at the bottom. Eyes and eyebrows, chin and teeth all look fine and when I smile I like it. HOWEVER, the other side is disgusting...my nose has a bump and it doesn't have the flick at the bottom as part of my cartilage is wonky so my nose droops down instead when i smile or laugh (so I don't smile or laugh anymore), trust me, this changes the WHOLE look of my face...I just wish it @!@@@! up and looked less harsh. My eyes and eyebrows are wonky from that angle too which makes me look like a FREAK and my chin is pointy so it sticks out more. I look like a witch from that side, or like a deformed dinosaur. The photos show EXACTLY how it is different so I know there definitely is an asymmetry, even though all my friends and family say there isn't. My confidence is high when people talk to me on my good side, but drops to 0 on my bad side...funny how different I will act depending on which side people see me on. I now avoid any events with cameras as I will go into a huge depression if I see a picture on my bad side, and I have stopped doing anything, seeing my friends...basically stopped living my life and I've started to lose all hope and motivation for the rest of my life. I honestly don't know what to do :'( I kinda wish I just looked the same on both sides, either pretty on both, or my ugly side on both, just so that I know that when people look at me they are seeing the whole me and not just one side that actually looks so much better than the ugly side i hide that they don't know of. I sound mental but how on earth can I change this?! It seems so REAL to me, it's so scary, I have no clue if I am f**ked up and wrong,or if i'm right and everyone else is just lying to me :'( :'(

It's good to know that some people have the same problem I do. All of my life up til I was about 17 I was considered model good looking. I never looked into a 3 way mirror or analyzed pictures too much but from the pictures I see from back then compared to now (20 years old) my face seemed much better looking and more symmetrical. The first time I ever looked in a 3 way mirror I was about 17 or 18. My life has changed completely since that day. One side of my face looks demented like someone squished it together and it stayed that way and the other side of my face is still good looking. I want to say that this year though I have met lots of very good looking women that find me attractive so I feel like most of it is in our heads. From the image I see in the 3 way mirror I have concluded that there is no way I would be getting any attention from the girls that I have been with or that have liked me recently. I would say go with what you see in the mirror and that's what other people most likely see you as, and if you think you look good in the mirror (normal, not 3 way) and you still aren't getting attention from others, it's probably because your self image and confidence is so low that others notice and are put off by it. I don't know if this will help you guys but I really hope it does.

sonosoda wrote:It's good to know that some people have the same problem I do. All of my life up til I was about 17 I was considered model good looking. I never looked into a 3 way mirror or analyzed pictures too much but from the pictures I see from back then compared to now (20 years old) my face seemed much better looking and more symmetrical. The first time I ever looked in a 3 way mirror I was about 17 or 18. My life has changed completely since that day. One side of my face looks demented like someone squished it together and it stayed that way and the other side of my face is still good looking. I want to say that this year though I have met lots of very good looking women that find me attractive so I feel like most of it is in our heads. From the image I see in the 3 way mirror I have concluded that there is no way I would be getting any attention from the girls that I have been with or that have liked me recently. I would say go with what you see in the mirror and that's what other people most likely see you as, and if you think you look good in the mirror (normal, not 3 way) and you still aren't getting attention from others, it's probably because your self image and confidence is so low that others notice and are put off by it. I don't know if this will help you guys but I really hope it does.

That's some sound insight you have there mate, welcome to the forum.

I truly can't believe that there is a group of people that share this with me.
I thought I was the only one in the world that had this 3 mirror issue.
That saw he's face asymmetrical and lopsided and very different then the one in a normal mirror.

I'd like to ask you guyS.
Do you get paranoid by this?
I mean the images are soooo different!! it's like having an ugly face and having a pretty face.

This is why I started to think that somebody is playing with me.
Like it's some kind of a sick game to drive me crazy.

I really don't particularly like my face in a normal mirror, but a 3 WAY MIRROR literally makes me never want to see anyone ever again - i actually look like my face has been disfigured and it just looks so abnormal, but then the one side of my face is just about ok. My mum told me that what we see is real, its just we don't normally see ourselves from that angle so freaks us out...but still...if i look like that, i think my life is over

Hope trust me I know exactly what your talking about.
I have the same exact thing.

When i said i have 2 face one is pretty one is ugly i didn't explain my self well.
When i look in the 3 mirrors thing i see just what you described!
In a normal mirror it changes..(i cant explain it.)sometimes ok,sometimes pretty, and sometimes i don't know strange.

Its all very strange.
same goes with pics and videos.

Gosh i cant believe more people have that.what the hell is this?!

btw what your mom told isn't you right at all.she shouldn't have said such a thing to you since you will get even more paranoid and think to your self that you are truly disfigured.

I wish i could understand this thing and solve it and help my self and you. but i just have no idea what happening.

Hey, so I was desperately searching for answers when I finally came across your post, and I am sooooooo glad to know I'm not alone in this. Just being honest, the left side of my face is extremely good looking, while the right side is extremely ugly, not exadurating! I was worn down over time by the disgusted looks I would receive every single day, while also experiencing stares of discomfort/confusion, and rejection from people.Just because of how I look. Everyone will tell you that you look fine, but only to help you feel normal which doesn't help, in fact for a while I just thought I was insane because of those people. I am not crazy!! Overtime I began to get more, and more fed up with this ****, and I've finally decided to go through with getting surgery done, even though I would really rather not do that. I'm gonna try this out, and if things don't get better, I'll try to open up to Christianity, and if things still aren't looking up I'm gonna go somewhere beautiful to end my life. I am so sorry your going through this too, I know exactly what you have to put yourself through everyday, and my heart goes out to you. The amount of time I've spent crying over this is absolutely rediculous, it's destroying my life, and nobody understands, unless you have this, which makes it that much harder, it's truly a curse. My advice would be to not tell anyone you have this, try to be open about it, which is extremely hard, but may workout for you, and if you've already tried that then maybe consider getting surgery done, or stick around to see how it goes for me once I've done it, and go from there. Thanks for hearing me out! Hope to here from you!