Anyone else irritated by platitudes about looks?

What I mean is those things family and friends say in an attempt to make you feel better about your appearance, that end up making you feel worse somehow...'It's what's on the inside' (does not help my situation), is one that drives me up a wall. Of course personality counts and yes, it should matter more, but it's not realistic to act like society isn't hyper focused on appearances, and some of us really struggle with how we look. It almost feels like my anguish over my face is being minimized somehow idk. I also recently had a family member tell me that my nose was in fact basically huge, but it 'didn't detract' from me being pretty 'anyway'. Ouch LOL.

What would you like your family to say?