do bipolar subconsiously seek other bipolar people?

i have been recently diagnosed with bipolar, it came to my attention that 3 of my really good friends could also have it (one is also diagnosed, the other 2 just think like me)

one of my friends who i reckon is bipolar is a great friend, we play mindgames with people, sort of converse with others on a different level than we talk between ourselves. i noticed another friend of mine does this not to me but with someone else

so yeah is this coincidence or do bipolar people seek out others to bond with?

-nicole

My psychiatrist said this is true. When you look at people in institusions, you'll see the people with similar diagnosis sitting together, without even knowing each other's diagnosis.

She did say that's what keeps her in business, because BP people attract and marry each other, and end up having BP children too! lol

Opposites attract. Bipolars usually marry really emotionally vacant people. It help us not be overwhelmed by the emotions of others. Our kids turn out with bipolar even with one sane parent.

You know I've often thought about the relationship between my husband and I. For starters he's aquarius and I'm aries. but what I've always noticed is that he never provokes me. with some people I can be like an errupting volcano and be so volatile yet with him it's even keel all the way. Sometimes Ifind that boring as I've no way to vent my emotions but on the whole he is like a steady rock.

I do have a friend who suffers with depression and anxiety and we do seek each other out when we are in emotional pain. I think because we understand each other and don't fob each other off with 'ah you'll be ok, it's just a phase'.

So it's been two weeks since my diagnosis. Since then I have found out 3 of my friends have BP too! And I have a strong suspision another friend is too!

I have the "mood disorder NOS" label and I don't just subconsciously seek out others like me, I actively do so. Not just mood disorders, people with an unstable brain chemistry in general. This is really only in terms of romantic partners, though. I'll be friends with anyone

Hmmm, I may have to ask my therapist her opinion on this one. Personally, I think that on some level we do seek out others like ourselves. Or at least it seems that way. Two of my closest friends are bipolar.

It's natural to try and find b=pieces of yourself in those that you associate with...
Conversely, it's not uncommon to reject yourself and seek out the complete opposite...

I've done both...
And never mix the groups... That would be dangerous.

I've been attracted to others with Bipolar as well. My favourite singer is Bipolar & often discusses it. My roommate in the hospital was severe Bipolar but I fell in love with her. (She didn't know, sadly.)

Second time at the hospital a week ago - the friends I made there happened to be Bipolar as well. Actually... all of them...

Sometimes yes and then maybe not....

My husband is bipolar and his former wife is bipolar and neither one knew they had the same disorder. His ex is bipolar 1, OCD, ADHD, and was diagnosed much earlier than my husband. This one example would seem to answer the question in the affirmative that bipolar people seek other bipolar people. Knowing both of them, I would have to say that the choosing was subconscious.

My husband's second wife ( me) is not bipolar. As someone else phrased it, I may be considered that emotionally vacant partner. I am actually not at all vacant, just a steady, private person with very few emotional swings. But to the bipolar affected person, I seem detached. This works for my husband to some extent because he cannot tolerate other people 's strong emotions. He knows I have strong emotions but he also is comforted that they don't vary much or present themselves often. I know that my husband would not consciously seek another partner with his same disorder.