Bipolar Boyfriend,please help

Hi Everyone,

I been on and off with my ex/boyfriend of 5 years.In the last 2 years and half we been just friends and talking everyday,recently it seems theres some hope we can get back together as bf/gf.I have some questions and doubts and im with hope you guys can help me.The reason my bf broke up with me was that he says he cant deal with a relantionship,the stress and that he just likes to be alone,before the final broke up he broke up with me many but many times before,sometimes in one single day he would break up with me twice.I always accept him back,i love him dearly and he says he also loves me just doesnt know what to do with his brain,he is bipolar but lives in denial about this fact,he calls his bipolar "problems everyone has" he doesnt see a doctor as far as i know in years although he takes Zoloft,he refuses to talk about the fact he is bipolar and i dont push it afraid i may hurt him.During this 5 years i read everything i could about bipolar disorder and been doing my best to help him.Now with the hope we can get back together i have some questions and doubts i hope you can help me with.For example is it normal that sometimes out of the blue he gest very angry,insults me,says hurtful things,says he just gonna move far away from everyone we know,get girls and act like if my love hurts him? then a few hours later its like nothing happend? also acting very erratic,talking non stop,making many questions,specially wanting to know everything i do? and then the next day he is very depressed? how can i deal with the angry side? and help the depressed side? how can i be a good gf? he also says he has no feelings,that he cant emotional feel anything,why is it? can he feel i love him? i know we will never get married or have children he says thats something he cant deal with or do, is this typical for bipolar disorder? im ok about not ever get married or have children,he is my love and i just want to be by his side,he is a wonderful man and theres no one else i would rather be with,how can i help him? what can i do to make it better? how can i be supportive? Any advice i will be very grateful for.

Thank you very much in advance.

Mental illness is the most misunderstood and difficult illnesses. Bipolar is a problem, but its nothing to be ashamed of... it needs to be dealt with. Being someone who is with bipolar can be difficult but good for you for staying by his side. What you have to do is make a decision for yourself. You can't stay with him if you're not sure thats the most dangerous thing you can do. You need to decide what is best for you first, and he needs to do decide what is best for him: either live his whole life in denial or do everything to cope. Also the worst thing you can do is forgive him when he does you wrong.

Hi Jonstrong,

Thank you so much for your reply and insight.We getting back to gf/bf,i putting no pressure to when or how we gonna start dating,i leaving it up to him so he feels he has the space he needs.Last couple of days have been a rollercoaster to his moods,i wish i could at least know what triggers them.This morning was the worse,he was again very hurtful,i understand what you say about forgive him but i see it as being his bipolar talking and not him so i keep forgive him.When he is better he is the most caring and sweet man i know and that kind makes me close my eyes to his attitudes when he is not ok.The hardest part is when he keeps saying he has no heart and cant have any feelings at all,is also scary the way he says it and after so many years i keep trying to deal with it the best i can,i also wish he would open up with me and tell me how he feels,until now i was not able to making him talk about his bipolar for real.Well once again thank you very much and any advice,suggestions,insight that you or anyone else may be able to give me its a huge help and im very grateful for it.

Thank you very much!!