Anyone else not want to date or marry?

So I always see articles about how to date with bipolar disorder, but I’ve never seen any articles for people who prefer not to date because of their illness.

Does anyone else feel this way?

I had several severe manic and depressive episodes since 2014 (first episode ever and diagnosis was in 2004). I had crippling depression and sleep issues for 5 years. It was only when I stopped dating that I started getting better. I’ve been single for about year and a half.

I decided never to date again or marry.
I can’t handle the ups and downs of relationships and love. And stressing out about sex.
And I don’t want a child because I don’t want to pass down my illness, be a bad mother due to mood issues, or put my health at risk. I also mainly just don’t want kids.

I’ve been much happier and healthier alone.

I’d rather be happy, healthy, and live a carefree life by myself.
I can see my close female friends and family.

I don’t think it’s about “finding the right person” either.

I’d just like to know I’m not the only one in the world with bipolar disorder who feels this way.

Any links to articles would be very helpful and appreciated as well.

I don't want to date or marry either. Not necesarily because of my sza but I just don't feel the urge to be with someone else. I tell people I'm asexual or just not interested.

Thanks for the comment lemon!
That’s actually pretty helpful - maybe I’ll start saying that too!

I've had two major relationships. First guy didn't "believe" my diagnosis or that I was unwell and that it was treatable. Second guy used it against me during fights..... "oh you're just unstable."

So yeah, really apprehensive to date again.

That's really heartbreaking to hear, @son.
Thanks for the reply.
I hope you find happiness in the future in either a good relationship or in yourself (or both)!

I am not interested in dating either. I have been single for over 6 years. I had a horrible marriage and it seems every guy I dated was a jerk. Im glad to know I am not alone. I have absolutely no interest in men anymore.

I'm fresh off of a breakup with a 23 year old that refused to get a job a year after dropping out of college. I'd like to date, but I kind of feel like I need to nitpick, even though I know I don't have to. He was the first person I ever seriously dated, but I hung on for way too long and kind of regret doing it now.

@Butterfly7171
Thanks for the reply!
I’m happy to hear there are other people who feel the same way too.
You do you!

@Tyler
Better late than never, right? At least you figured out what you want in a relationship and can seek it out in the future! It’s not a bad thing to be picky!

I used to feel that way, but now that I hit 40, I am really freaking out that I've never married or had kids. I feel like my time is running out and I need to act fast.

I am not a bad looking guy, am over 6 ft. and take care of myself. But I just don't know where to start as I haven't done serious dating in 15 years. Also, being unemployed kinda puts a damper on things (lol).

So I am the opposite of you guys. I am sick of being alone.

Hi Paniic,

There’s always time.
There are many people who have their best years later on in life. So don’t worry, just enjoy the moment, and don’t stress about it.

Putting yourself in a place where there are opportunities to meet others may help.
Gym, PC game cafe, volunteer work, bookstores / libraries, free classes are a few that come to mind.