Do I Have Bipolar on Bipolar Meds

I have been fighting depression and anxiety for years. I was given Abilify years ago for irritability. I gain a bunch of wright so I stopped it a week ago hoping to loose weight. Then just yesterday I went into a rage with my husband. I totally lost it.
Anytime I don't take Abilify I get very angry, bitchy, snappy and sometimes rage out. This is not like me normally.

Today my psych gave me Vraylar...a bipolar/schizophrenia med.

I'm trying to figure out what the heck I have. Is it bipolar if I don't have mania? Am I psychotic if I rage?

I'm 42 and really need to figure out once and for all what I have. It's hard to seek support when I don't know what to call it. I know many of you here have a good insight into these things. Thank you in advance for your guidance.

Welcome to the forums. Meds meant to treat one affliction can be used to treat another issue effectively. It's funny how that works.
Finding the correct medication and dosage can be hit or miss early on. I was just taken off a med because of swelling.
It is important to work closely with your physician and let them know immediately of any abnormalities. There are other choices in meds if the Vraylar doesn't help. I am not familiar with Vraylar. Perhaps someone who is can chime in.
I can't diagnose you, but keep working with your doctor. If you have no results with this doctor, then ask for suggestions.
What primary diagnosis did your doctor say he was treating you for? There can be more than one.
Best of luck to you.