vent/cry for help

I join this group to support my spouse. I am trying but I feel that I am at my wits end. I know that is not far. I have a few questions that I hope are not TMI. This is a vent and a cry for a help.

Why stay up at night instead of during the day. I use to think that cause no one up so you dont have to deal with any people. You have melotin next to the real meds. You dont have a problem taking them. But the melotin in less i give it to him he does not take it. If you say talk it before bed he never goes to bed. Why is it so hard to sleep at night?

My spouse self pleasures any where from 1 to 6 times a day. I have read that bipolar people can be sex addicts. Can a man get a addict to getting off with him self. If I try i can play with him 1 1/2 hr and he does nt get off. I am so trying to understand. We argue about this before. I told him that I thought he was having affair with his hand and he told me the affair with me. Since the hand was there first. I am trying to understand I dont know how to anymore. He self pleasuriong daily... watching porn.. and we are not having sex.

For me. I cant sleep more than a couple hours if i dont take meds. Before meds that put me to sleep. I was up 18 to 20 hours a day. My mind wont shut off enough to relax.
Cant help with his other issue

*mod edit*
A *mod edit* heterosexual man should want sex with his wife (partner).

It sounds as if your relationship is in very bad condition. While you are still married, it seems you and your husband have no relationship. I recommend that you see a counsellor. You are going to need to vent and work out your future plans. A good counsellor can help you there.

I'm sorry I can be no help or have some good news and a soothing message for you.

There are a couple other forums here where you might find more help.
On the home page, under the GENERAL button is a forum on relationships called, "Significant others, Family and Friends."
There is also a button for SEXUAL forums on the home page.