SpacingOut wrote:Basically I'm having a really hard time figuring what I should do next. I want to focus on finishing school, but as my dad only wants me to work and help pay off his debt, and my mom's too drunk to even pay attention. So I feel like I'm in a difficult position. I wish I had someone who supported me ...
SpacingOut,
I'm sorry to hear you are in such a heartless situation. Our culture teaches us to respect our parents and love our family. Clearly, this should not always be the case.
If you can survive on your own financially, why not just cut your parents out of your life? I know it would be harder than it sounds.
I had no feelings for my father and hated his right-wing racist beliefs. I saw him as little as possible and when I did, I would just let him talk. He kept saying how good our relationship was, and that I was doing fine. When he died, I was relieved. A few days before he passed away, he said my brothers and sister had shed tears at his bedside, and wondered why I hadn't. I just shrugged and said people react differently.
You are an adult now, and you are not your parent's keeper. Leave them and build a good life for yourself.
Take care,
-- Wed Jul 09, 2014 5:34 pm --
My employment situation:
Retired at age 55 after working 32 years as a civil servant.
I'm financially very secure living on my pension and savings.
Work was not always easy, being bipolar. Anger, during mania at work nearly got me fired. I was lucky to have a good union.
Life now really is the best it has been for me.
I am really blessed, when I consider how it could have been.
It is not always possible to make someone's discomfort go away.
Sometimes, the best thing we can do is resist the urge to fix it and instead just say, "You, too?"