Help-hubby wants to be a psych nurse :(

Hey all.

So my hubby has decided that he wants to train as a psych nurse and has submitted his application. The thought of it fills me with dread. I think he would be great at it, that isn't the problem. The problem is I am scared of some psych nurses, I have been restrained, injected, physically abused, all sorts in my long history of being involved with mental health services, and have even suffered PTSD as a result. The thought of my husband having to restrain and inject people scares me. Just the knowledge that he has become 'one of them' would make me feel weird around him. But what can I do? It's really selfish of me to not want him to do it. I'm just so worried it will change my feelings towards him. Anyone?

Cheers, keenie

Hmmm... This presents quite a problem for you. I can see too that it might change the way he relates to you and your symptoms. He might become analytical and detatched as he looks at you, rather than being the loving, caring but unimformed husband. It will probably not be one or the other, but a combination of both. Having a loving caring husband who is knowledgable and able to be detatched when the situation requires it may be good for you both.

The road to becomming a psychiatric nurse is a long one. (unless he is already a registered nurse) He won''t become one right away and change over night. I encourage you to let him venture down this path, but be open with him about your fears.

Take care,

Hi keenie

This sounds difficult for you to say the least. Have you discussed things with him and let him know how you feel about it. You can still be supportive of his choice but just also be open with your thoughts and feelings about it too. I think it is really important to talk to him.

hugs

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