wretched1 wrote:Why do I have to keep doing this? Why do I have to be responsible? I was raised and taught that this is what I do.....but really why? It's too much, I am tired. tired of going out of my way for everyone else. I've got more than the short end of the stick, it's covered in crap. The worst part is that I saw it was the short end and that it was covered in crap and I said, 'oohhh, I want that.' I'm holding on, but why? Because it will get better, because there is some payout at the end? Maybe because of love? It's hard and I don't think I can do it anymore. So, no I'm not strong at least not strong enough. I used to think I was so great but that was just my warped hypomanic mind. Now I know though, my illness is no longer a secret to me. I know I am not great and I can't do it all. The evidence has been there all along.
None of us are born to be a superman, -mom, -dad, -partner and so on, even though society (or we, when we're in our manic state! : P) thinks we should/must cope with ten or more things at time. You're a failure, because you don't own a nice car! Failure, because there are dirty dishes in the sink and you have to repaint the house, but you'd rather be sleeping or watching TV! Failure, because, you know, everyone else can, why can't you?!
What I mean is don't beat yourself up just because you're not in the mood to do everyday tasks. I know it's hard when you have a family, but everyone deserves "alone time" now and then. We are so caught up in thinking what we must do, rather just paus and think what'd be best for us and our mental health/well-being.
And you know that "be strong" thing? I get that a lot, but as I see it, it means you just have to be clear about your own needs, thoughts and feelings. Just for once, sit down and figure out what it is that bothers you the most. Solve it, and move on to the next thing. It has helped me and I hope it'll help someone else, too.
We don't always have to be good samaritians, because somewhere in the process we'll lose ourselves. And then the helper transforms into victim himself.