by crazymonkey » Wed Mar 06, 2013 12:11 pm
My 15 old son was diagnosed last year. It's not only possible the signs of bipolar are/were there for many children, but very very likely these signs were overlooked The problem is that children don't look or manifest like bipolar in adults- they don't have the impulsive sexual indiscretions, or spending sprees/foolish investments, or gambling or drugs (until teen years), etc. Kids often report or are observed with uncontrolled rage, anger that cannot be controlled (hitting, punching, destruction of property, etc). Many will have vivid imaginations that entail violence. There are some excellent books on this subject.
For us, we knew he was having panic attacks, social phobia/anxiety, and always had that out of control temper. He would try to punch or hit us, punch holes in walls, destroy property, etc. Even as young as three or four his moods (from funny/silly to anger/darkness) would rule the house. He once told a daycare worker when he was four that he was going to go home and get a chainsaw and cut off her head because she wouldn't give him seconds at snack time. He always was a prolific liar (lying is huge in bipolar)- lying about anything and everything. He had moods that he would be charming and then he would become prickly, argumentative,cursing and using foul language for shock value, verbally wearing you out--- like a lawyer; a real "nudge".
When he was 14 he started using street drugs to self medicate. He needed detox, and rehab. This cycle repeated again and again until finally he was properly diagnosed and medicated. He was diagnosed when he began cutting, trying to commit suicide, and we realized all of this hell wasn't "normal". We regularly had to call the police or crisis mobile response for assistance (either the violence/temper, or sneaking out/running away, or the drugs/hurting himself). It took me 30+ years to figure out I was bipolar. For another child it might have been the same story, but I was able to figure out what was going on much more quickly, and knowing my story helped greatly. He now is getting the help he needs before its too late- he either would have ended up overdosed/suicide, hurting someone/jail, or a tortured 35 year old with a failed life-- not being able to hold a job or keep a marriage, and thinking he was just a weak, irresponsible man.
Now, he has hope; hope that only was discovered once he was diagnosed and could get treatment. Currently he takes Lamictal and Buspar. Sees a psychiatrist, a therapist, and a peer counselor. Good luck, and if you have children and were told they cannot have this disease until adulthood, run to get a second opinion (or third, or fourth, or fifth). Your child's life may depend on it.