new here...showering question

Im Lyric. New to this site. Been struggling with bipolar all my life thus far. I hope im not alone on this subject but does anyone ind it hard to get motivated to shower when depressed? I have gone a week or more sometimes without showering due to depression. Its hard for me to admit so I hope no one judges me Thanks , Lyric

This is very much a problem for me when I'm depressed. Sometimes it has helped me to take a shower at night even though I hate taking showers at night because it gets my hair all screwed up in the morning. At least I'll get one in though. I'll also do a quick wash up in the sink sometimes if I just can't get myself to do a full shower.

Cheze2 wrote:This is very much a problem for me when I'm depressed. Sometimes it has helped me to take a shower at night even though I hate taking showers at night because it gets my hair all screwed up in the morning. At least I'll get one in though. I'll also do a quick wash up in the sink sometimes if I just can't get myself to do a full shower.

Thanks for replying. Im glad im not alone but sad at the same time...if that makes sense. I think I will try to get one tonight when all the kids are in bed.

I was just thinking about his the other day since im not working. Its like, if im not doing anything anyway. Why bother even showering. Just one less thing to do. But i make myself take one every other day. The warm water is nice.

It's hard for me also. I can go a week without showering and have to *force* myself to get into the shower.

You are not alone XD

Its really bad for me because if I'm depressed I don't have the motivation, and if I'm manic there are 100000000000 more interesting things I could do other than shower Lol.

So... I'm lucky if I make it in once a week. Even if I tell myself the water is nice and warm, that doesn't help much.

Hi: I don't want to step on anyone's toes, so forgive me i seem confused. My best friend, sometimes gf has told me that she has bipolar and anxiety. We are both nurses. We worked together in nursing homes in the past. She has lost her nurses license because is was suspected of diverting narcotics and the pdoc that evaluated her saw her as a threat to patients. She was a super loving nurse. I am very sad that this has happened, however she did take the drugs. Her excuse was just not believable. She tried to say that she threw them out in the trash. Not possible...she was always complaining of back pain and used narcotics she bought on the street. No one knew this but me.
I have been helping her financially the last couple of months while she tries to get her life back together. This is not a good idea on my part but i do love her. I am enabling her not to take responsiiblity for her life. She is really smart. Took a certification exam to qualify for a entry level position as a Pharmacy Sales Rep. This i believe is another example of unrealistic thinking/expectations. I don't think she will ever get an interview, besides she needs to avoid self medicating! What i want to ask and please i really need as many thoughts as this community will give me, is the following. 1) She is deluding herself because of thoughts of grandeur or does she really suffer from borderline personality disorder? 2) If she is being honest and just in denial, should i be her supportive friend or confront her over her unrealistic expectations, including how much longer i am willing to give financial support? 3) Should i ask her to seek immediate work, even if it depresses her to accept some kind of low paying job for a while? I could offer .my home rent free so that she can finish paying her svhool loans, owe $4000 and can't get her BA without paying it off? 4) Just say enough, go my way with best wishes? I wouldn't want someone that told me they loved me to do that!
Well i would like to thank those who read all the way thru this, i appreciate your effort. I am struggling with this and i know you all may have loved ones who go through this too. I love my friend like no woman i have ever known.

therealfokker wrote:Hi: I don't want to step on anyone's toes, so forgive me i seem confused. My best friend, sometimes gf has told me that she has bipolar and anxiety. We are both nurses. We worked together in nursing homes in the past. She has lost her nurses license because is was suspected of diverting narcotics and the pdoc that evaluated her saw her as a threat to patients. She was a super loving nurse. I am very sad that this has happened, however she did take the drugs. Her excuse was just not believable. She tried to say that she threw them out in the trash. Not possible...she was always complaining of back pain and used narcotics she bought on the street. No one knew this but me.
I have been helping her financially the last couple of months while she tries to get her life back together. This is not a good idea on my part but i do love her. I am enabling her not to take responsiiblity for her life. She is really smart. Took a certification exam to qualify for a entry level position as a Pharmacy Sales Rep. This i believe is another example of unrealistic thinking/expectations. I don't think she will ever get an interview, besides she needs to avoid self medicating! What i want to ask and please i really need as many thoughts as this community will give me, is the following. 1) She is deluding herself because of thoughts of grandeur or does she really suffer from borderline personality disorder? 2) If she is being honest and just in denial, should i be her supportive friend or confront her over her unrealistic expectations, including how much longer i am willing to give financial support? 3) Should i ask her to seek immediate work, even if it depresses her to accept some kind of low paying job for a while? I could offer .my home rent free so that she can finish paying her svhool loans, owe $4000 and can't get her BA without paying it off? 4) Just say enough, go my way with best wishes? I wouldn't want someone that told me they loved me to do that!
Well i would like to thank those who read all the way thru this, i appreciate your effort. I am struggling with this and i know you all may have loved ones who go through this too. I love my friend like no woman i have ever known.

Hi The best thing for you to do would be to start a new thread about this - you are likely to get more replies if you do that

In terms of showering I really struggle with this - not washing in weeks. I still struggle a bit at times but it is better than it was since being more stable

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I am unusual here -- never had the showering problem, although sometimes I would get in the shower and sort of stay there for 45 minutes sitting on the floor. But it is so typical for depressed persons to have a problem keeping a regular hygiene routine, that my doctors all asked me about this. Don't be upset Lyric, nobody's going to judge you here. *hug*

I tend not to shower as much as the average person no matter what my mood is. I don't think I ever noticed much change when I got depressed other than when I was depressed, I tended not to do ANYTHING - including showers.