Years of binging after dieting - finally asking for help

Yeah, I read that as well. I think people comment when people lose weight but not when they put it on. And believe me, these comments were made out of concern and were put sensitively - except for my future grandmother-in-law who just told me to eat more that I looked a wreck!

Old people are usually straight-to-the-point! My grandmother knows about my food problems too and she always tries to help - Alas, in vain, however.

Hi everyone,

So, I had a meeting with someone from a center for people with eating disorders last week. I have to say, I came out of it with very mixed feelings and really have no idea what to do now.

The counsellor seemed to be quite dismissive when I told her about my situation - she spoke of "subjective" binges (apparantly since I still eat small meals when I'm in a binge phase its "not really binging"), said that my weight at the moment was acceptable (with a current bmi of 16.9 everyone I know is trying to feed me up) and that I just need to "eat properly". As if as an afterthought, she suggested therapy and made an appointment for me to see a nutrionist.

Now I dont know what to do. I really dont know whether there's any need for therapy or whether I can deal with this on my own. I think I'll start trying to take whatever the nutrionist says on board and if its not working, then take it from there.....
Any advice?

dd

Hey,


If you feel yourself getting worse (regarding your eating) then immediately seek the help of the nutritionist or a counsellor. It'd be very wrong to allow it grow progressively worse because, before you know it, you'd be too far into the quagmire of the disorder. Then, getting out would seem impossible.


Ultimately - if you can - try not to think about food too much! I know this is hard but it is the best way in my opinion of 'defeating' an eating disorder. Just, let it go.... ....


Take care,
Kevin.

Hi,

I havent posted here in so long because I've been doing well the last few months. Up until last weekend. I was in Amsterdam with my fiancé and a group of colleagues. Saturday I bought some sweets, ate them all, and then had a Belgian waffle. Not too bad I suppose - but I haven't really been eating any sweet things for at least 6 months now so that was quite a lot for one go. Sunday, I again ate a bag of sweets and an almond cookie cake - again not too bad you might say. But my fiancé noticed that something was up. I denied it and said I was just hungry, on holidays and would go back to my "healthy ways" the next day. He flew home that night, and I bought an apple pastry and cookies to eat in the hotel that night (I'm here for a week on a business trip). Felt awful afterwards and was ok yesterday. Today, I started ok with cereal and toast, then had a piece of ginger cake. Bad move. I got into work with such sugar cravings that I bought and ate: 2 muffins, 2 almond cakes, 5 biscuits and a nougat bar. I had half a salad for lunch in between and had to leave the table because I felt so sick. Now I feel awful. Tried to purge, but didnt really work. I feel so disgusted with myself and am really afraid that I'll slip back into my old ways. I feel totally drained and all I want to do is get back to my hotel room right now - instead of going sightseeing with colleagues after work. I've been unable to concentrate all day at work.
Should I tell my fiancé about the episode? I dont want to hear "I told you so".......but I want him to know what's going on with me. I need his support.

Sorry for the length of this post but I needed to get this off my chest somehow.

dollie

hey dollie.....

first of all...great job in controlling yourself for so long...!...you should be proud of yourself.....

now the slip up....this happens......when it's been going on for so loong...and even if you get it under control for a while....you tend to relapse into old habits.....i know how you feel....but remember you were able to get healthier once and you can undoubtedly do it again.....
what made you binge in the first place......?...
it could just be that you found yourself in a similar state of mind again and the binging took over.....try and find immediate distractions....

like when you feel yourself approaching something sweet...turn around and get out of the place if you can....and just keep walking....till you find yourself thinking about something else.....or do anyother activity continously...and eventually you're mind will take another direction and you wont be thinking about the food..........

it's helped me......and i started going for walks in the after noon when i found myself binging the most.....and by the time i'm done with a walk....i'm thinking about other stuff i can do next...intead of the food....and it's sorta killed my appetite.....cause you end up gulping down more water....and dont really feel hungry.....

i hope this helps.....you did it once...you can do it again......and about your fiance...if his support is so important to you...let him know......and before you say anything else...tell him tht the last thing you need to hear is 'i told you so...'..because you are fully aware of it..........

take care dollie....