Help needed!

Ok basically I need some help with my girlfriend. Ive been with her for about 2-3 months and about a week ago she told me that she used to have an eating disorder.
At first I was obviously quite concerned but she told me that she is fine now, so I didnt really think to much about it after that.
However the other day she was upset and I asked her what was wrong, at first she wouldnt tell me but eventually she told me it was because she tried to make herself sick.
Im now really concerned as I dont really know what I can do to help as I dont have a great knowledge about eating disorders plus she gets quite annoyed when I try to talk about it with her and she always claims shes fine.
I think its quite serious as shes 16 (nealry 17) and is having problems with her periods, she even said she went a year without having a period.
Lately she seems to be binge eating, she seems to go through phases when she eats loads and phases when she eats hardly anything.
The thing is she seems to think not eating and being sick is normal as some of her friends do it.
She seems to be really worried about putting weight on and think shes fat despite the fact shes slim. She also said something about she used to be fat and she gets worried she will become that girl again.
Sorry its such a long post lol.

Zidane wrote:Sorry its such a long post lol.

I've seen posts about 5 times as long as this... ...This is normal length


Anyway, I'm very sorry that your girlfriend is going through this. My ex also had problems with her food and as much as I told her how beautiful she was she never appeared to accept it. This doesn't mean that you should give-up on complimenting her though.


I wouldn't try to help her directly if I were you; Just be there to offer support. If you try to help her directly you more than likely will anger her. So, you have to pick the right moment to talk to her about seeking help elsewhere. Never corner her into the conversation and if you manage to get a conversation going on the matter let it proceed at her pace.


Suggestions you can make for support can b a counsellor, GP, parent, sibling, et cetera. Preferably, it should be someone completely inependent of her family and her friends.


I hope that what I have writen her helps you.

Take care,
Kevin

Hiya

I agree that all you can do is support her, only she can make the decision to try and get better and seek help. I would recommend reading up on eating disorders so you have a bit more background on it and can understand the way she is thinking more. But ultimately it is something so hard to understand if you are on the outside.

Having your love and support will help her. Having friends around with similar problems may not help her though, but it is such a common thing especially amongst certain groups.

Well done on posting here and supporting her.

bluemonday
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