Psychology behind BSM thoughts?

I have cuckold fantasies too, the theory is that a man with a cuckold fantasy uses it to relieve the stress of feeling inadequate in comparison to other males. Another aspect of the theory is that by accepting the defeat of your male ego you are escaping from the burden of the traditional male gender role with its emphasis on competition with other males to win the prize of having sex with females.

Yeah that theory sounds about right, especially as it applies to me. Do you think the facets of those theory apply to your fantasies as well?

NobodySpecial wrote:

I have cuckold fantasies too, the theory is that a man with a cuckold fantasy uses it to relieve the stress of feeling inadequate in comparison to other males. Another aspect of the theory is that by accepting the defeat of your male ego you are escaping from the burden of the traditional male gender role with its emphasis on competition with other males to win the prize of having sex with females.

Yeah that theory sounds about right, especially as it applies to me. Do you think the facets of those theory apply to your fantasies as well?

Yes, that's the origin of my fantasies also.

All human relationships involve power struggles. There is in real life no such a thing as equality as we all have our own individual strengths and weaknesses whose value in deciding a particular power struggle depends on the particular situation. A clever con artist may have a disadvantage in dealing with somebody who doesn't speak the same language as they do. Being stronger than some other person physically may not mean very much if they control a lot more money or have some sort of martial arts training. Legal determinants in power struggles vary with local law codes. In real life everybody makes informal understandings with other people as to what situations they feel comfortable letting other people tell them what to do and what areas they choose to make their own choices. More submissive individuals often put up with behavior by others in certain areas that most people would not put up with because it makes them more valuable to people who are more demanding than usual, such as soldiers in the military being willing to endure certain physical hardships others wouldn't in order to qualify for more prestigious jobs. Cuckold fantasies may be restricted to accepting acts short of actual multiple sex partners during our current global AIDS epidemic even by submissive individuals of course. It's important for relationships to make sure that everybody involved knows where the other person draws the line.