BDSM

i was against it untill my girlfriend pissed me off so bad.. sex was our escape from reality and when we were mad i would hurt her. i couldnt get it up to make love.. but when i was spanking her pussy, choking her, slapping her face, and ######6 her throat i was hard as a rock. just typing it out makes me hard and i am heartbroken right now. she would say "i love it when you hurt me. hurt me daddy" she would grab my hand and slap her face to show it was ok. she was out of control and dominant outside the bedroom but in the bedroom she would do anything. one time i was doing her anal really hard and chocking her with both hands. her face was dark red.. afterwards she was happy. she was bad and needed to be punished

That sounds kinda hot. *takes notes*

I'm the same way... dominant outside the bedroom. I am successful in everything I do. I am very driven to achieve. I love to be in control. But in the bedroom is like my place to let that all go and let someone else take control. Anywho... time for bed it's 4 am.

I love BDSM and almost all the play involved with it. I'm a submissive at heart, but I enjoy taking control every once in a while.

Although I would never participate in a full time dom/sub relationship, it's a lot of fun in the bedroom.

i like the idea of making love as well as the bdsm idea. Of course, I would have a choice in it, so I really wouldn't be submissve and it would be important for my significant other to know that. I would also like to be the one in the dominant position as well as submissive.

I'm curious to explore aspects of BSD, but I never had a relationship so it's difficult. I'm not interested in pain or humiliation (either recieving OR giving), but the concept of erotic control domination seems interesting, at least the idea of an attractive woman being that way towards me. I would feel uncomfortable being dominant towards a woman but if she wanted it, I would try it for her pleasure. If she wanted me to be rough with her I'd feel very uncomfortable, BUT I'd want to try to help her fulfill a fantasy, BUT I'd want to stay out of trouble of suddenly being accused of abuse (especially since it is documented that I have anger management issues, that I don't ever want to cross over into sexuality or real life abuse)...so beforehand I'd have my partner sign a contract/agreement saying this is her intent/idea/desire, so as to protect me later just in case.

I'm not sure why I see more women online always say they'd like to try this and more men say they are hesitant about it. Where I work it seems as if the males I talk to always talk as if this would be great for them, but they very well might be joking to be masculine. I don't know, I have rather strong social phobia myself and it's not always easy to tell when others are joking.

Personally, though I haven't had a relationship, the concept of bondage, dominance, and submission are extremely erotic. The loss of control or gaining thereof signifies an extreme, if not the most extreme amount of trust possible between two, or more, people.

To me, the person dominating the other is the one who's primary responsibility is to pleasure the sub. And at the same token, the sub is there to be pleasured for the dom's pleasure. That's completely subject to change based on the participants however.

Definitely interested, always have been. And yeah I'm a chick and it's difficult for me to find men that aren't submissive. It's a lot easier to be a bottom than it is to top someone, that may be why there's a difficulty in finding dominant partners.

I find that hard to believe. Most women think you're a kinky perv when you mention wanting to dominate them. And the ones who are into that stuff always want to dominate. It seems damn near impossible to find women who aren't dominant.

Where are you finding thee dominant woman? I saw an ad on craigslist by a couple of college girls in Boston. They were willing to dominate- for a fee! No sex, just domination. I should have tried it out. Might have been interesting.