Master/Slave relationship between a real couple?

I wondered if anyone has ever had a M/S relationship with someone they were already in love with? My fiancé and I started a M/S relationship a few days ago and I know that he won't do anything to destroy our bond, we agreed to call it off if my emotions play up too much. But I wondered if anyone has done this before? And if it was successful? As we are in love and know that we want to be married someday.

someenglishgirl wrote:But I wondered if anyone has done this before? And if it was successful?

Yeah, I've been in a M/s relationship but I'm not sure if I would say it was successful. Well we didn't get married if that's the definition of success.

I think it can become complicated if you're doing it 24/7...especially when it conflicts with other roles and obligations, such as jobs and relationships with family etc. If you're only doing it 'in the bedroom' then it should be easier to manage.

However you have arranged it, I'd suggest always being able to talk about your relationship (e.g. don't make it so that the slave is forbidden from expressing dissatisfaction to the Master), and being flexible so that rules/rituals can be adjusted depending on circumstances. Let your M/s relationship evolve in the same way you would let other activities or expressions of your love evolve. And if the dynamic isn't working well, don't be afraid to stop or take a break. You may still enjoy BDSM without the formalised Master/slave roles.

Dom, Married, Staight (that's me)...

Yes! Of course it can work! Don't be silly!

Sex is sex. Master and slave ultimately achieves sexual congress and satisfaction. Do you or he go to work having sex? Do you talk to your respective parents having sex? Do you register at the DMV having sex... With a leather hood on... in handcuffs.... whimpering, "Please Master, no more. I'll be a good nurse next time?" NO!!! Not if you are sane. Master, slave, bondage, sadism, foot sniffing, clothes fetishes, pony-play, feclephilia, and (for the life of me I will never quite understand this one) fuzzy-amputee-teddy-bear-with-a-wiffleball-bat-and-on-death-row fetishes are all part of sex!

Why is your sex life concerning your union as a complete family?

When I go to work I don't say, "I handcuffed my wife. She was in a leather skirt and slutty top and I made her cum while my fingers were in her ass."

That is so crude, inappropriate and outside of the boudary lines that it is unthinkable. That was us making love. Sex is what you have. Love is what you make (just a little philosophy there). What you do in the acheivement of pleasuring one another is NOBODY else's business unless you invite their attention to it. The means the little stuff too. As a couple, and in marriage there are areas where you are a team. It does not seem like coincidense that a sub to dom relationship also demands teamwork. You will be settling bills, planning how to spend time, and ultimately trying to map a successful future.

Do not forget: male, dom, straight, married... FOR TEN YEARS! I can be done and it requires only compromise and understanding. Fortunately it sounds like you have one of the be big three covered, sexual interests (Money is number one followed by moral standards).

Ways to explore outwardly the slave to master symbiotry should be subtle. Here in the United States everybody is such a judgemental prude when it comes to sex. So said ways, read suggestions:

* Let him dress you. A good master has an eye for appropriate attire and will always dress you in such a way that excites him while accentuating your appeal to others. We doms love to show off.

* In public you could volunteer to serve him. I mean a cook out you could take the "Nuclear House Wife" approach and pander to his every need... If that suits you. I have misgivings about doing the whole servitude thing publicly but than again my domination style is more about making a strong woman yeild willingly.

* Go somewhere where no one at all knows you. Then act out. I mean really act out. If you want to be his slave, no better opportunity. Don't go over the line and get arrested. Please be mindful of consiquences. But on that subject why not take a day away and REALLY play the role of a slave. The people around you will know what is going on but they don't know you. You could explore as a couple the satisfaction of going all the way through a grocery store while you are tied up. Please, I have explored this road before, nobody but the most brazen will confront you (that includes police.)

So, long winded yes, but helpful I hope. I keep that slave, master thing under wraps for our own enjoyment. Just in the house. And, not every day. For God's sake, we have life to live and a child to raise correctly... But, it is there. We still practice "deviant" sex and still know both of our roles when no one is looking. The handcuffs are oiled and waiting and the oil is waiting too. But the lifestyle is pushed into the realm of pleasure not neccessity. When the times are right she grovels and submits. Other times we just enjoy each other's company, as any successfully married couple should do.

Sorry for the pooptastic spelling, I hope my digressive diatribe was of some help to you. Best of wishes for your wedding.

-- Wed Aug 21, 2013 6:21 am --

I can not undo such bad spelling and grammer. I appologize for my type-o's. Still, Please do not stress. Just marry for love and the details follow your lead.