Do you feel more comfortable around a specific gender?

Generally it's the same for both genders, it just depends on the person - but something I realized recently is that I'm very afraid of masculine men. Masculinity in men just reminds me of all bad things: sexism, racism, homophobia, bullies, etc. :\ I can't separate the two. This ends up meaning I'm actually attracted to feminine men, and masculine women. Not as a rule, but generally, haha.

I suppose posting first that I am a male will help.
In general I am a bit more avoidant with females than with people in my same sex.
But I think aside from gender, extroverted people tend to take me out of my 'shell' a bit more than say
'normal' people or even 'shy'/maybe avoidant? people like me


Also regarding age........ most of the people I can relate to 'better' are older than me (I'm 24)


so yeah, that's how the scale goes

I'm a male. I'm very insecure around attractive men/women. Although I think that's more to do with the body image and eating disorder issues I have.
I avoid having to be in the presence of women more than men because I'm straight so idk I guess I don't care as much if a guy would think I was unattractive, though it would affect me still.

I'm more comfortable around women I'd say. Being around guys they always wanna talk about getting laid, or how "that bitch" over there has nice this and that and how this bitch ain't all that etc... I just don't have anything to add.
I assume women don't wanna talk anyway unless I initiate it since I'm the guy, but I don't ever initiate conversation so it's easier to be quiet around them without worrying they'll interrupt my thinking.

Well, me, as a man, I guess I feel more comfortable around women. In my previous college course, I started by making friends with a girl who seemed to be like me (but in the end wasn't so much), and slowly other females added up, and I ended up with my own harem Though I got tired of every single one of them, course included, and quit.

So, even though I don't like to socialize with anyone in general and very rarely approach anyone by my initiative, I think I lean towards women better. Probably because women seem more open-minded and comprehensive than men, who tend to have an inept tendency for competing between themselves. Men are also generally more aggressive, extravagant and openly critic in their social interactions, which bothers someone like me who prefers to stay apart. When I'm put between a group of men, it feels like I'm constantly being compared to them, and it feels suffocating. In short, women seem to be nicer and easier to interact with, although they have a certain annoying tendency to talk forever

It's great to hear all the guys on here relating to women better than men - I've been struggling with this ever since puberty, and I was resigned to being a complete oddity. Early in high school, when I was friends with the majority of the Field Hockey team, I was half-convinced I was gay since I was so adept at hanging out in the Friend Zone.

I have some guy friends here and there mostly from school, but none in my area anymore. Honestly, it seems like guys are more cliquish, travelling in packs and less likely to induct anyone else into the group. Or at least, less likely to be looking for more friends to add to their social circle.

It's difficult - while I'm sensitive and introspective like most Avies, which is a feminine trait, I have a lot of traditional, red-blood masculine traits too. It winds up that I can only hang out with a select few, making it nearly impossible to balance my lackluster social life with other guys. I fear my life might end up like a more tragic version of I Love You Man someday.

I'm a guy and I feel more comfortable about women as well. I've only had one close male friend and while we got along great and there was even physical affection in the form of hugs, I still felt a kind of distance I never felt with female friends. In general, women have been more accepting of my avoidant behaviour and haven't been as quick to judge. With guys, I've often felt that they just thought I was weird and didn't want to have anything to do with me.

There's also the fact that I'm not much of a drinker or party-goer. I prefer to just stay indoors and watch a movie or have a good talk with someone, and women seem to be more inclined to talk about their feelings to me. With guys, I've always felt a pressure to grab a beer and stop thinking.

I'm straight, and I'm very very conscious about the way I look. I feel uncomfortable around men because I feel like I'm in a constant competition. Around attractive women, I feel a bit nervous, but usually I just resign myself to the fact that I'm just their friend and they'd want nothing more than that anyway, so I don't feel judged for the way I look so much.

I am equally uncomfortable with both genders but I do feel comfortable with people that have less self esteem or people that I think are "lower" than me

First, I am a male.

I am very, very uncomfortable around men. In general, interacting with them triggers strong feelings of shame. I think it's because I view myself as "less of a man." And for whatever reason I don't believe that men are capable of providing emotional support, and so I'm constantly anxious that some weakness or another of mine will manifest and I will be mocked or rejected for it. The -absolute- worst is male caregivers -- therapists, doctors, etc. Or having to report to a male manager. (Which I basically will refuse to do.)

If I had to pick one, I would pick Men.

If age was part of the question, I would say older Women - 50's+.

But since it could be any age, I have to go with men because if it's a woman near my age at all and attractive at all then I feel like a nervous 10 year old boy.

I'm a heterosexual 29 year old man, I feel the most uncomfortable with younger (what I perceive to be) attractive women.

Slightly less uncomfortable around women that I don't find attractive.

Uncomfortable around men my own age or younger that I perceive to be "superior" (better looking, better physique, better job, nicer car etc)

usually comfortable around men my own age or younger who I perceive to be "inferior" (opposite of above, but they are pretty rare!)

Completely comfortable around older people 50-60+ both male and female.

So in order, I generally feel the most uncomfortable around:
Women I find attractive
Women I don't find attractive
Men I perceive to be "superior" to me
Men I percieve to be "inferior" or equal to me (I hate using these terms but cant think of alternatives)
Older people