birthdays?

My birthday is coming up and my parents keep pressuring me to do something. I'll be turning 21, and they want me to have people over, or go out, or do something. It's really just something they want to do. I keep telling them I don't want to, but my mom gets so mad at me like I just insulted her. She's acting like I'm being rude to her and everyone else by not wanting to do anything, and she says I'm just doing this for attention and so people will feel bad for me. I just don't like celebrating my birthday. I always get yelled at or ignored. I don't know why, it just always happens. Last year, after my father skipped going to a movie with the family and then he chose the restaurant for my birthday dinner, my family took turns at the restaurant telling me how condescending I am and what a know-it-all I am. This year, I just want to skip it. I don't want to do anything. I don't want to go out, I don't want to have people over. I just want to treat it like every other day. I want to do my schoolwork, watch some tv, maybe go out to a movie by myself. I don't want to do anything special. But not doing anything, it's like my parents think I'm intentionally trying to be mean to them. Lately they've just been shooting down everything I say. I've had back pain and hip pain for a while now and I don't know what to do about it, and instead of being helpful, they just tell me to stop talking about it because they don't want to hear it. The other day my father told me the only reason he and my mom listen to me talk is because I'm their daughter, not because I have anything interesting to say. I just don't know what to do anymore. I really just want to be alone.

your parents don´t sound too logical :S
they prolly have some emotional issues
you should IMO just make it about yourself because I mean it is about you, they are just punishing you for not being an extrovert.

I know if my kids don't celebrate a birthday, I feel like a failure- maybe your parents feel the same?

To me it's important that I see my kids happiness, almost to show me that I have done a good job and I would say (IMHO) that your parents are angry at themselves.

Happy birthday n-m-l

Dwight

Kill your parents and cut off their heads....

Ooops I'm not in Antisocial forum. So again

f*****ck them!

That's not any better. Hm...

Ignore them? Let them make you a big expensive party and then don't show up. If they don't wanna hear you then don't talk to them at all. And if you manage to find your own house someday never contact them again. Let them to eat their own sh|t for what they have done to you. That would be proper revenge.