Do females have it easier?

So the long and short conclusion of this discussion is: The fu*king bi**hes, ehm... I mean women have it a lot easier. Amen

PatronSaintHunter wrote:

Socialretard wrote:My point exactly you dont know me therefor you shouldnt have blindly labeled as a bitter women hater. Educate yourself iv posted on this site for years, most of the time as "ThePain" read some posts, the only person i hate is myself, im pretty honest about that.

I didn't blindly label you. I said I got a feeling from what I've seen of your posts. All I was saying is that I should have waited and saw more of you before determining such a thing. I'm apologizing for my haste, I still think your first reply in this thread is ridiculous.

Call it what you want, you admitted to not knowing me yet felt the need to call me names.

Ridiculous perhaps, yet quite a few feel similar. Guess we are just stupid and way off the mark.

scarecrow817 wrote:

ck2d wrote:

scarecrow817 wrote:An insecure female regardless of how she looks will still have guys hitting on her once she decides to let people know she exists.

Not true at all.
Though I wish it was. Do you have a magic wand that could make that happen?

You don't need one. Just post a profile on a dating website. They'll be guys messaging you.

X100 this.

Go on most dating sites you will see women get contacted no matter what. Men do most of the messaging for some reason. Women often complain about getting message bombed.

Yes women have it hard but men have it alot harder.

Do females have it easier?

I would say no.

Because it's not about being reached out to, it's about how you feel about yourself and how you feel about other people. It doesn't matter the tiniest bit whether you have one friend, ten friends or none, as long as you feel worthless and lonely.

And that has nothing to do with gender.

tlepS drawkcaB wrote:

scarecrow817 wrote:
You don't need one. Just post a profile on a dating website. They'll be guys messaging you.

X100 this.

Go on most dating sites you will see women get contacted no matter what. Men do most of the messaging for some reason. Women often complain about getting message bombed.

Yes women have it hard but men have it alot harder.

Yes, because having an inbox full of unsolicited photographs of strangers' penises makes life so much easier.

They both have it hard... Have you ever tried to pick up a women with social phobia when you had social phobia... Its horrible... Its very interesting...

A women with social phobia is a snapshot of you. You can watch what you look like to others when your watching her behavior around others.
They are very hard to get close to.. You have no idea whether they can be trusted... They might go off on you. You cant tell...

It doesn't look like social phobia, it looks like cruel control.. Ive attempted to get close to women with phobic problems. iTs like walking through a tank yard. Meaning war tanks... Theres a million signals that say, " leave me alone Im not interested". Yet, they are interested! From the point of view of the person with the social phobia, they believe they are innocent and nice with a few defenses. They have no idea how they look to the outside world. or, how hard it is to approach them.

So, my opinion is, it is not easy for anyone.

Im a sensitive person. This seams to have no value.. I have been in a room where I was looked at as a loner and strange... I felt judged to death. Do I really want to be around these people. NO!, However, How bad do I want to be alone.. Being alone was worse...
The world is such a hard place. If I am a genuine person, Im thrown away.... of no interest to anyone. being a genuine person, I end up freaked out living in this society and that much more alone..

People with social phobia have a hard time of it. they send off signals of defense when they really want some one to approach them.. Its all very hard...

I thought women had it easier, I now believe anyone with social phobia has a horrible time of it. These people are misunderstood.. Its a prison cell of isolation for the social phobic...

BabyBam wrote:

tlepS drawkcaB wrote:

scarecrow817 wrote:
You don't need one. Just post a profile on a dating website. They'll be guys messaging you.

X100 this.

Go on most dating sites you will see women get contacted no matter what. Men do most of the messaging for some reason. Women often complain about getting message bombed.

Yes women have it hard but men have it alot harder.

Yes, because having an inbox full of unsolicited photographs of strangers' penises makes life so much easier.

So every message that gets sent is of some dudes penis? Didnt know that.

Simple fact is that men naturally will make a move on a woman, the reverse doesnt happen.

A fair few ot the women (not all) on here have mentioned they have either had kids or a partner. From the time i've been on here most of the men on here havent been able to claim that.

Btw i never said it was easy being a woman i simply said it is tougher being male with this disorder, i'm aware both are screwed in the long term.

scarecrow817 wrote:What you're saying is true but that's not the point I was making. An insecure female regardless of how she looks will still have guys hitting on her once she decides to let people know she exists. A male however does not have that option.

Nobody wants an ugly girl though.. maybe she has a hot body?
Or maybe they're just desperate..

And women have it a lot easier on the whole dating thing. Most women have no social skills anyway.

The problem with society is people go by looks. They shouldn't. You should love a person for who they are. Not for what they look like or what they do for a living etc etc. This is why divorce rates are so high.

People shouldn't get into relationships immediately after meeting someone. Be friends with that person. Get to know each other. Don't rush.

This is like trying to compare being kicked in the balls to childbirth.
Both genders have roles we are expected to play, it sucks for everyone and within each one you will have people who "have it easier".
Personally I think it comes down to physical appearance a lot of the time as well...
If an AvPD guy is attractive, you will have some females approach him, whether or not it goes any further than an awkward exchange...
If an AvPD girl is attractive, you will have a higher volume of males approach her...
So would you prefer to know you don't have the opportunity at all or have it constantly thrown at you knowing you can't take it?

I can understand why guys feel that way, and I can see why it seems like women have it easier but everyone's experience is subjective. Some people can function with AvPD, have a job or go out in public. I could say "those people have it easier" because I rarely leave my house out of fear of social situations... But, I don't because I know those people suffer just as much.
I think we all feel like the other gender has it easier, but that's just our desperation to be anything else because no matter what it's extremely difficult for any of us to have to live with this.
If you're unattractive in either gender, and AvPD... well you're definitely f**ked, that's just the way society is.