I feel doomed

by **Forever Flamed** » Tue Oct 25, 2005 2:37 am

wndwswllbreak wrote:I'm a 26 year-old male who, in particular, is helpless when it comes to initiating conversation with a woman whom I find attractive. The first thought that comes to my mind is always something along the lines of this: "I find her attractive, and it's for that very reason that she won't want anything to do with me. Why bother?" So it's not just a fear of rejection. It's being resigned to defeat, thanks to my magical thinking. It's kind of funny, because I don't believe in bad luck, don't believe in curses...except when it comes to me! Sometimes, I feel like there exists some higher power that enjoys humiliating me, withholding from me my basic human need for companionship and love just to watch me squirm and suffer; one that presents me with situations which appear at first to be promising, just so that I allow myself to get my hopes up and be dissapointed even more when the other shoe drops. Intellectually, I know that this is (almost certainly) not true, but, emotionally, I sometimes find it hard to otherwise explain some of what's happened to me throughout my life.

Nooo you can't give up! Omg if you're a guy it is SO easy for you to get a relationship!! You get to do the approaching, you get to do the choosing. In fact, its your duty to since there's some girl out there waiting for you to approach...

For a girl, hitting on guys makes her look like a whore men and women both know this. All a guy has to do is dress like a metro and ask a girl some innane question and if she smiles it means she wants you. If she moves away, move onto the next one... of course since you're avoidant you'll avoid anything good in life. I do that with friends, school, everything but with the guys the frustration built up in me so much that I want to approach but I know if I do I'll be used for an ONS.

Also guys should forget about asking for numbers and just ask for email addresses. This way instead of having akward silences, the girl just thinks you're busy doing something else.

[quote=chickadee]The women of the world deserve more guys like you to get out there.[/quote] Yeah, that's what I'm talking about.

I could and I have plenty of times, although the delete button (and all the buttons and filters on my digital camera to make me look not like $#%^) is my best friend because I think most pictures of me look hideous. I don't see how that proves anyone isn't avoidant. (See my post in the social anxiety vs. avpd thread because I've ranted about that enough.)

The rest of his post was tl;dr (not that I don't read long posts, just that that was an old one and he's probably not around anyways so what's the point) so I dunno whether he has avpd or not but I don't think the photo thing proves it.

by **Yukinari** » Mon Dec 08, 2008 6:33 pm

A real life Shinji wrote:I was just browsing the old threads and I found this interesting. I doubt if that guy is Avoidant. I could NEVER put my picture on the net. I won't even allow my photograph to be taken. Could anyone else do this?

I find it very hard to post my pics on the internet. I'm too afraid of being judged negatively by looks even though I think I'm attractive. And I hate it so bad when people want me to show them my pic, so I make up some lame excuse so I won't have to.

by **Jessica's Hope** » Mon Dec 08, 2008 10:32 pm

I would rather die than post my picture on any website. I hate myself when i look in the mirror and its even worse if i see a picture of myself.

by **Peptron** » Mon Dec 08, 2008 11:36 pm

Well, a woman nicknamed "thecrackwalker" made a series of videos about herself and AvPD and some of it is on youtube:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vIsg2V0mf6Y

by **Jessica's Hope** » Mon Dec 08, 2008 11:45 pm

A real life Shinji wrote:If someone put a picture of myself on the internet I would have a panic attack.....I'm not joking.

I always have friends nagging me to join facebook and i cannot imagine why anyone woud ever want to post pictures of themselves for the whole world to see.

i am always terrified that one of them posted a picture of me on facebook. i have erased pictures of myself on my friends cameras before because i am so scared of this.

by **Yukinari** » Mon Dec 08, 2008 11:49 pm

I've always dreamed of becoming invisible. It would take so much stress off of me.

by **Parador** » Tue Dec 09, 2008 1:20 am

I was just browsing the old threads and I found this interesting. I doubt if that guy is Avoidant. I could NEVER put my picture on the net. I won't even allow my photograph to be taken. Could anyone else do this?

I have my pic up in a couple of places. I had it up on another avpd site for a while once. I NEVER put it up anyplace where I talked about my humiliating virginity though. So I can never put my pic up here. Too bad - I just had my pic taken in my white suit with my white fedora hat. I'm a COOL CAT.

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