I wish I was a girl O.O

AlAtBar wrote:

techaddict wrote: But I suppose my situation isn't as bad as I think. After all I DID have some success with real women in high school (I met them all online though. lol), including an actual real girlfriend. lol. Thing is I don't know if I can ever be that guy again. THAT GUY barely had a filter so to speak. I'm not sure if back then I actually "waited" until the right time to hit on women or not. But I'd say stuff like, "you got great boobs" and was met with positive reception. It's like I sort of "forgot" how I "did it". It's been so many years.

Did you say that outrageous stuff in person or just online? If in person, I have my doubts if you're much of an avie. If you can do it online, you can do it in person too. Just takes a bit of practice. I think you're just on a bit of a downtick now, and don't have really deep problems. Will all be fine once you get out on your own and keep up the practice.

All but one of those girls (my ex-girlfriend) I told them those things online. With my ex-girlfriend (whom I met online through her cousin, whom I met on a chatroom), it started online but then progressed onto the phone and real life. In our first meeting, we were getting a bit hot and heavy at an amusement park. I was caressing her legs and she'd put her fingers into my mouth to suck on them. And naturally we were making out a lot. Then we broke up after that. We lived 5 hours apart so she couldn't handle it. Then she had some boyfriends after that but then she came crying to me online about how her boyfriend was such an asshole and we started flirting again. And she invited me over to her dorm apartment over the weekend. I could tell in her voice on the phone what she wanted. And then I got there I'd tease-flirt with her a bit, then I went to kiss her (open mouth with tongue) and we were making out for awhile and I went for her breast. I was going to go all the way (we were naked and fooling around) but then I didn't get hard (lol. I mentioned it before. She was attracted to me but I didn't feel the same on my end). It's a nice feeling when you know that you don't have to hold back in terms of what you say and action. I went down on her and she was grabbing on my hair so that I couldn't escape. That relationship didn't work out this time as well because even though she was closer now (her dorm was like 90 minutes by car from my house but I didn't have a car and I would had to Greyhound every X number of weekends over there. And she wasn't keen on not seeing me very often.) There is a demon in me (OKCupid seems to think I am highly sex-driven. I don't like to think of myself as a pervert though. I really am a nice guy. I don't see myself as the creepy perverted guy. I'm a hopeless romantic type) but my brain is wired so differently from people that it's hard for me to connect with people. Inhibition does figure into it partly.

I'm pretty sure if I was born a chick, I'd be a nympho. But after being in a situation where this creepy-looking older guy was volunteering with me (he seemed to be a nice guy but there was something about him that gave me the creeps.) and I was afraid of being alone in the room with him, maybe not so much. lol. Life can be very scary for women.

techaddict wrote:I'm pretty sure if I was born a chick, I'd be a nympho.

Think that is true of just about any guy.

AlAtBar wrote:

techaddict wrote:I'm pretty sure if I was born a chick, I'd be a nympho.

Think that is true of just about any guy.

Yet somehow OKCupid seems to think I'm way more sex-driven than the average straight male my age. #######4. I'm a 25 year old virgin (oral sex doesn't count right? Bill Clinton said so) and I haven't seen a real live woman naked (my ex) in over 7 and a half years. Sure I get by with self-love but still. lol. That seven and a half year drought is mainly due to me being a chicken since I haven't really pursued many women after my ex (there was this gamer girl in my last year of highschool, that chick I met on another forum, that local avoidant girl I met on a dating site. Yeah that's it.) But I'm like so socially out of it (I don't have a "life" and I've no real interest in getting a "life". I tried getting a life. Going out with friends doesn't interest me. And I am so incredibly socially awkward period.)

techaddict wrote:Yet somehow OKCupid seems to think I'm way more sex-driven than the average straight male my age. #######4.

Let's see. The average for a male about around age 25 is probably 99 on a scale from 1 to 100 . Perhaps you are a 99.5 and the test is so sensitive it can detect that differnce even though no one in real life could?

AlAtBar wrote:

techaddict wrote:Yet somehow OKCupid seems to think I'm way more sex-driven than the average straight male my age. #######4.

Let's see. The average for a male about around age 25 is probably 99 on a scale from 1 to 100 . Perhaps you are a 99.5 and the test is so sensitive it can detect that differnce even though no one in real life could?

Maybe? lol. I selected "very willing" on a question that asked how willing I am to experiment in bed, answered once a day or more to masturbation (I answered that privately. Seriously can you blame me though? It's one hell of a stress reliever), put down 3-5 dates on the "dates until sex if you really like the person" question (the real answer is actually 1-2 but I fibbed a bit). I don't know how this makes me into some Super-Saiyan-esque sex-driven maniac.

techaddict wrote:

AlAtBar wrote:

techaddict wrote:Yet somehow OKCupid seems to think I'm way more sex-driven than the average straight male my age. #######4.

Let's see. The average for a male about around age 25 is probably 99 on a scale from 1 to 100 . Perhaps you are a 99.5 and the test is so sensitive it can detect that differnce even though no one in real life could?

Maybe? lol. I selected "very willing" on a question that asked how willing I am to experiment in bed, answered once a day or more to masturbation (I answered that privately. Seriously can you blame me though? It's one hell of a stress reliever), put down 3-5 dates on the "dates until sex if you really like the person" question (the real answer is actually 1-2 but I fibbed a bit). I don't know how this makes me into some Super-Saiyan-esque sex-driven maniac.

I know you say you aren't extremely sex-driven, but I have noticed that almost all of your posts on this forum have to do with sex/love. I'm not saying you are sex-driven maniac like that test says you are, but you do seem to talk about that kind of stuff a lot...

Yeah, I'm bit of a creeper, I know

merely_me wrote:I know you say you aren't extremely sex-driven, but I have noticed that almost all of your posts on this forum have to do with sex/love. I'm not saying you are sex-driven maniac like that test says you are, but you do seem to talk about that kind of stuff a lot...

Yeah, I'm bit of a creeper, I know

Haha I know. I really need a girlfriend. lol. That would calm me down.

VenusWillendorf wrote:

Socialretard wrote:Do you live under a rock or are you physically repulsive cuz i doubt that a women could never get approached. Go to a supermarket and you will likely be hit on or just walk down the street.

I guess I am physically repulsive. Thanks a lot for explaining that to me.

Maybe you have the opposite problem. I knew this girl (we did not get along for long) who was the prototypical knockout American blonde bombshell appearance-wise (with the exception that she never smiled except when she was sneering). Anyway, I asked her if she got hit on just by being out or going shopping, and she said it almost never happened. She remembered once by some "Middle Eastern dude" who "probably wasn't familiar with the local customs", but thought most men were too intimidated to approach.

Socialretard wrote:Do you live under a rock or are you physically repulsive cuz i doubt that a women could never get approached. Go to a supermarket and you will likely be hit on or just walk down the street.

Maybe that's true ... if you are white and live in Sub-Saharan Africa, where people seem to approach you much easier than here. Maybe SR lives there?

AlAtBar wrote:

VenusWillendorf wrote:

Socialretard wrote:Do you live under a rock or are you physically repulsive cuz i doubt that a women could never get approached. Go to a supermarket and you will likely be hit on or just walk down the street.

I guess I am physically repulsive. Thanks a lot for explaining that to me.

Maybe you have the opposite problem. I knew this girl (we did not get along for long) who was the prototypical knockout American blonde appearance-wise (with the exception that she never smiled except when she was sneering). Anyway, I asked her if she got hit on just by being out or going shopping, and she said it almost never happened. She remembered once by some "Middle Eastern dude" who "probably wasn't familiar with the local customs", but thought most men were too intimidated to approach.

I think that socialretard was replying to me because I said that nobody had ever approached me. VenusWillendorf already said that she had a boyfriend. I agree with you though. I think it definitely has to do with the way you present yourself, the environment you are in, and your age. I think the reason why I haven't ever been approached is because of a combination of all those factors. Mostly age though.